Dec 15, 2020 in Counseling

Managing Thoughts, Feelings, and Facts

Learning how to manage your feelings.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

16 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

16 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

16 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

16 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

16 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

16 Nov

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

16 Nov

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Knowing the difference between facts and one's own feelings may be difficult. However, there are times when we make feelings a fact instead of an opinion. You may have a point of view of a situation resulting in what you believe to be a fact, or a version of your own imagined fact. Thoughts are extremely important to each individual. However, to keep things fundamentally true, you have to differentiate between facts and feeling. Let's focus on sincere principles.

Sometimes a source of information may be successful in delivering great benefits. The information could be accurate, inaccurate, determined, altered, exaggerated and frantic. For example, you may consider a feeling so strong that you see it as reality. But there are times when you may believe something as factual yet, not supported by actual fact. In reality, feelings may not always have a relation to one's own realistic measures. Determining the difference between feelings and opinions may be difficult if you're consumed with emotions.

Consuming yourself with only emotions may distort fact. It's perfectly normal to have feelings and abnormal to ignore one's own feelings. However, excessive dwelling may distort facts.

Ignoring feelings of pain will only make it difficult to accept sensitivity and joyful bliss. It may appear easier at the time, but you will feel it later. Your objective is to communicate your feelings and make reasonable decisions that effectively guide you for growth.

Some people are so involved in their feelings that they're blinded to facts. Reasoning or communicating with someone who believes his or her feelings to be fact, even if evidence portrays differently, may determine just a feeling not a fact.

Simply, being aware of your feelings will bring clarity to help differentiate, fact and opinion. Always be sensitive to other people's feelings, so you may receive the same in return. Furthermore, remember that thoughts are feelings and they are a behavior from your thoughts and they do not change facts.