Jan 26, 2020 in Reputation
Your Insecurities Can Become Your Entire Reputation
Our insecurities, if they come out in an negative manner in the eyes of other people, negatively affect our reputation.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
We often are not self aware of our insecurities. We don't see them like other people do and depending on what type of defense mechanisms we exhibit, if they are perceived as negative in the minds of other people, our reputation will suffer.
This can prevent us from accomplishing what we are pursuing or become a catalyst for negative feedback of different types we will receive.
What is helpful then is to learn exactly how we respond to our insecurities, which can be done by asking those close to us in our circle of influence or being courageous and humbly, politely asking people with who we have had a disagreeable interaction.
We can then teach ourselves new, more helpful ways to think and respond when we feel our insecurities are triggered. By doing this, we will not cost ourselves opportunities in life that are important to us nor will we create annoyance or anger in other people that will have them react in a way towards us that is natural and expected yet we won't accept well as we will feel bad.
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Learn to make these very important adjustments or "rewiring" in our lives and uur reputation will improve. That reputation is our calling card (positive, negative or neutral) - in our professional and personal lives.
Most people don't realize how critically important their reputation is and how it plays a significant role in what we get to experience and don't get to experience, the frequency and degree of positive to negative moments and benefits we will have in life.
If you struggle with how you are being perceived and would like help, there are always ways to further develop. You can work to rewire your thinking, decisions and behavior yourself through self education and personal development. You can reach out to trusted family or friends, psychologists and trusted experts of many kinds that possess the expertise that you want to develop by gaining invaluable insight and assistance and work with and practice with them.
Move forward in one of these ways and you will wire your mind, actions and responses in a manner that will create the improvements and experiences you seek. Be consistent and see all that life can really be for you.
Michael Toebe is a specialist for reputation and crisis, serving organizations and high-profile individuals. He is the publisher of the Reputation Times newsletter on LinkedIn and the Michael Toebe Newsletter on Twitter. He regularly writes advisory articles for business magazines and is the author of the upcoming book Reputation Crisis: a Conversational, Professional, Problem-Solving Guide.