Dec 6, 2019 in Reputation
Making Consistent Critical Comments Affects Your Reputation
If your natural behavior is to be critical, consider the reputation risks that come along with it.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
People who consistently speak in a critical manner, regardless of the reasons they do such, might not realize that by doing such they are constructing a negative reputation, one that can become a barrier for peace and happiness.
This article was inspired by reading a news story this past week of a very successful and wealthy person who found himself in trouble for some careless words he expressed.
While he was able to safely navigate through the conflict (because he was willing to do what most people won't do with poise, humility and a thorough apology) he is known for having a reputation as, how do I say this, critical, condescending and abusive.
By responding how he did he was able to positively manage conflict yet the behavior that preceded that conflict management was on brand for him. It's his pattern behavior and left uncorrected it will put his professional and career well being at great jeopardy and thus, his personal peace and happiness, his mental and physical help at risk.
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While this person, after a negative response to what he communicated, knew what he had to do and impressively chose to do it, I just do not see him recognizing his predisposition to a negative attitude and highly critical, often personal attacks on people.
And that is problematic.
Many negative people don't realize that they're that way. Yet that doesn't matter because people are still "seeing" them as regularly negative and forming equally negative judgments about them, which changes how people react and respond to people. This can lead to rejection, disinterest and isolation. It can lead to poor relationships, broken relationships or lost opportunities. It can lead to negativity or aggression being received in return.
Yet it doesn't have to be this way. This type of trouble, hurt and pain can be prevented or mitigated and problem solved if someone is committed to learning and developing new skills to navigate through what is currently an unknown, confusing or difficult for them.
For those with a similar mindset and challenge, there is always opportunity to learn how to rewire thinking, improve stress management and express oneself in a way that is less critical, more productive and builds an admirable reputation instead of damaging a reputation and having to endure outcomes that are not pleasant or downright painful, maybe even long term.
Michael Toebe is a specialist for reputation and crisis communications, serving individuals and organizations and publishes the Reputation Times newsletter. Contact for advising, consulting, coaching or communications through the WikiExpert platform.