Feb 20, 2020 in Life Coaching
What if you just didn't bother?
What if you stopped listening to those who motivate and encourage you to live your dreams, Would you be happier?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
So everyone keeps telling you that you must take action on your dreams and that you should ‘go for it’. But what if you didn’t?
Yes, you heard me. What if you didn’t listen to anyone’s advice and you decided, no and took no action.
What would be the outcome?
Maybe life would be more blissful and relaxed and you could just continue as you are without changing anything. No big decisions to be made, not having to get uncomfortable or risk being let down if things took a lot longer than you originally planned. Just continuing as you are and just living.
You would be snuggled up in that comfort blanket of life watching others strive for what they want, whilst you continue doing the same thing every day in your own routine without any risk whatsoever.
You wouldn’t have to rock the boat and you could continue spending your time complaining about how fulfilling that dream life is so difficult and there are so many risks involved. You will gain sympathy from those who share your pain and this makes you feel better and continues to soothe the pain of taking any action to live the life of your dreams.
Who needs to live the dream life right?
For some it does. When going for your dreams and deciding to make the changes you need to make to fulfill your goals, this can often feel worse than keeping things the same.
So what is the pay-off that you are getting for letting the dream go and staying ‘safe’?
What is the internal pay-off you feel for just living the routine of life and not jumping out of your comfort zone?
As for every action you take there is always a reason to take no action. What is your reason?
Is it fear? Is it doubt? Is it the feeling that there will be too many changes that you wouldn’t be able to cope with?
Whatever it may be, there is always a reason for not living your dreams and often it is the reason that keeps you stuck because you value the reason more than what could be better around the corner.
Remember you are entitled to make the choices that you make. No one should force you to make choices that you do not feel comfortable with, but the consequence of those choices always lies with you.
You should be willing to own those consequences and it should feel right to you.
No one lives the life that you live. No one thinks about the daily thoughts that you do. Each of these is unique to you.
But sometimes others may believe in you more than you believe in yourself, therefore, their eagerness to encourage you to live your dreams often comes from a good place.
To really make that change you have to ask yourself, what if I didn’t make the change? How would that feel? Or maybe check in with yourself and find out what personal pay-off do you have that keeps you from changing things?
Life has many opportunities and dreams do come true in many people’s lives every day, but before that happens, the ‘what if’ question must always come into play.
So, before you ask yourself or another ‘What if you did it and went for it?’ Why not ask the question ‘What if you never took action and did nothing?’
You would probably find it will lead you to the answer you need a lot easier and the truth.
So are you ready to find out what you need to know???
Are you ready to find out what is really keeping you away from living the life that you dream of?