Nov 12, 2021 in Life Coaching

Are You Still Hiding or are You Ready for Change?

Staying in the complaining zone is something that many do.

9 members found this to be effective.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

12 Sep

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

12 Sep

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

12 Sep

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

12 Sep

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

12 Sep

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

12 Sep

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

12 Sep

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

12 Sep

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

12 Sep

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Staying in the complaining zone is something that many do. It has become the 'comfort blanket' that many curl up in, even though they are not happy.

Are you this person?

Do you prefer to wallow and stay in an unhappy situation just so that you have something to talk about and it creates an opportunity for others to feel sorry for you and to give you their undivided attention?

You may not admit it openly but do you recognize this pattern in your own life?

When I studied Tony Robbin's 6 Human Needs, this would be one of them and would come under the human need of 'significance'.

The need to be significant to others in your life outweighs the need for personal growth. This means that you crave being significant in another's life and if you feel this is slipping away, this is when you react and begin sharing your victim story with everyone who will listen knowing they will console you over and over again.

Now having a need for significance is not a bad thing but it can be negative when it starts controlling how you behave and how long you hold on to those things that no longer serve you and keep you from avoiding moving forward to become more happier and content.

If it causes you to hide away from living a happy life, you need to change this. You deserve to enjoy life and to let go of those things that hurt you. Those that love and care for you will always be there with you no matter if you are telling them a happy story about your life or a sad one. True friends and loved ones are there through the good times and bad times...so allow yourself to create some balance in your life and quit hiding from the life you truly want to create.

Be significant to you. Value your happiness and give yourself the gift of change and joy.

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