Jun 9, 2021 in Life Coaching

Are You a Serial Dater?

So I hear you ask...what do you mean a Serial Dater?

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

16 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

16 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

16 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

16 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

16 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

16 Nov

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

16 Nov

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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So I hear you ask...what do you mean a Serial Dater?

This is basically someone who when their current relationship ends, to get over the breakup, they go straight back out and start looking for the next person. On a mission to find a rebound target.

Why do many do this?

Well another person can help you mend your broken heart quicker right?

Wrong!!!

All you are doing is repeating the pattern with the next person and the next and the next. You are never mending your broken heart yourself. You are relying on another to do it for you.

You can do it yourself!

You can mend your heart and get back to your happy strong self on your own, but in order to do this, you need to take a break.

You need to erase the energy you have picked up from the bad relationships. It is so important to release this energy. It's like the pandemic - energy is catching!

When you accumulate so much negative energy from one relationship, you are spreading this energy to another and their relationships and your future.

You are creating your own negative relationship pandemic!!!

Stop doing this.

It's so important to heal. To let go and to really get to know who you are and build yourself up again after what you have been through.

This will be good for you and the potential partner you meet that could be the right one for you.

Don't put pressure on yourself to keep looking out for the next person to fill that gap in your heart. Fill that gap in your heart with you!

If others are doing it, it doesn't mean that you have to follow. You are your priority not following others.

Healing takes time but it will be well worth it.

You don't want to be a J-Lo having one relationship after the other and still searching for the long-term soul companion and now going back to an ex.

Now I love J-Lo but she is a primary example of a serial dater trying to find Mr Right!

Dating is fun and it is important to get out there and not hide from finding love, but please take that time out to heal your heart before heading back out there. It's not fair for another to be your rebound and it's not fair on you to have the negative patterns repeat itself over and over again in your life.

You do deserve happiness.

So be patient and give yourself the time you need. It's not forever it's just a healthy way of recovering from a broken heart.

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