Apr 13, 2021 in Life Coaching

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

28 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

28 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

1 Dec

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

30 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

28 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

28 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

28 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

2 Dec

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

2 Dec

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Perceptual positioning is detaching to yourself as a third person like playing your character in a video game or watching yourself from a CCTV. By doing this, instead of working IN your life, you will be able to work ON your life.

Perceptual Positioning is a very effective way, because if you can master this you can change all the negative characters that you have that do not serve you in a good way. You can upgrade yourself. Also, you can shorten the distance of your present self to your future self (the best version of you).

There are 3 easy ways to practice this.

First one is ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS. Questions like what if I got a friend who has my problem? What advice I can give him? How am I going to help him?

This is effective because, in reality, it is easier for us to tell other people what to do than to do it ourselves. Let me ask you. Did you experience giving an amazing problem solving technique to somebody and you can easily think of that? But, when you encounter the same problem, you are having a hard time to think what to do. Ask me why? Because, if we are very emotionally attached with the problem, we are having a hard time to think properly. When emotion is high, intelligence is low.

So, we need to break the pattern here by doing the first thing which is to ask yourself specific questions.

Secondly, EVENT IS AN EVENT. Let me tell you a story. There is a mother zebra with her offspring eating grass somewhere in a forest. Then, out of nowhere, a lioness with her offspring ate all the offspring of the mother zebra. The mother zebra mourned for her offspring. The lioness celebrated for she and her offspring haven't eaten for so many days. But for the TREE, who witness the event, for him, it is just an event.

So, be like the tree. Witness your struggles and problems in life like those are just events.

Lastly, think of what your ROLE MODEL would do if he is in your situation? Whether he is your parent, teacher, boss, friend or even a public figure, think if he would do the same thing like what you are doing now. If not, then, you got to change your action. Act as if you are your role model. Model success is what I always hear from my mentor.

So, the last one and the best one is think like your role model.

If you want to master perceptual positioning, or you need more motivation, build a habit or anything related to personal development and human psychology, feel free to message me. If you are struggling with speaking in public, check out my other article HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING: 3 PROVEN TECHNIQUES.