Jan 12, 2021 in Life Coaching
7 Ways To Reduce Stress
Stress can affect us in so many ways, psychological, physiological, and emotionally
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
In our world today , a year into the pandemic. Most people are burnt out and fatigued by this pandemic. Most of us feel beat and defeated emotionally and mentally by this pandemic, and many of us also struggling financially.
Here are some simple ways you can reduce your stress, or cope with it better and maintain a healthier life styles .
- Get moving
Moving our bodies in whatever capacity increases our blood flow to our brain. Depends on where you are in the world and how cold it is, you may be able to incorporate this into your daily routine. Like walking to work, or doing quick stretches or walks on your lunch hour. You do not need the gym to get active. There are so many ways we can get active for free. If you have a beach nearby or a lake or a hike. Get outside and breathe that air and get your body moving. Moving our bodies cause increased blood flow, and release good chemicals in our brains which all in return decrease our stress, and our low moods. There are so many ways we can get active at home as well. If you want more information connect with me
- Do a daily check in
Daily check in with yourself, where are you emotionally today? What is the goal of the day? What are you feeling? Being aware of where our minds take us daily is very helpful. Having a simple small goal helps focus our energies daily. I start the day with a simple goal, and one I can achieve. Because the worst thing you can do is set high goals that you cannot achieve and feel like you have failed, and then it’s a cycle that you are stuck in. your goal can be something simple:
- Today I will get to work early
- Today I will smile at a stranger
- Today I will drink 3 glasses of water
- Today I will eat a fruit
- Today I will do 15 minutes of physical activity
Whatever it is you are choosing, make sure you can achieve.
- Spend 5 -10 minutes giving gratitude and counting your blessings
Everything about how we feel and act comes straight from our minds. Happiness is been linked greatly to being grateful and thankful. I do a little cool year idea. I have a gratitude jar with little pieces of papers next to it. Every morning in my rush to work I put one thing I am grateful for. At the end of the year I sit down and read it all. The more we are grateful for the things we have the happier we are. Always remembering a lot of what we have someone else is wishing for. I also get in my car and on my drive to work say out loud what I am grateful for and what my goal is for the day. When we repeat things and out loud they stick with us better.
More than we ever know, sleep is huge for our stress and our mental wellbeing. While we sleep our body rejuvenates, and restores. Not just sleeping the hours we require but also having a routine is very important. Sleeping all different hours and times, does not help your body get into its relaxing routine. Also before bed having a ritual of some sort, reading or meditating or even doing gratitude. Go to bed on a positive note. Try not to have electronics, or to hot or cold environments and not too much light so you can get a good night rest.
Find your support system and use them in these times. We are not meant to do life alone, and we have family and friends and partners that we support and they support us. Connect with these individuals when you need them, and bounce ideas with them or just simply spend the evening together. Emotional connection is one of the biggest things that affect our wellbeing and mental health.
Find ways to laugh. I usually read a joke in the morning or look at a meme and laugh. Find ways to laugh. Whether it’s reading something funny, or watching something funny. Sometimes I just put the office on in the background in my house just for a quick chuckle. You can use any other comedy shows as well.
- Morning routine
In connection to sleep, have a way to start your day that is strong. Have little rituals that signal to your mind this is the start of the day for me and this is when I am getting up and battling life in my finest. I usually make my bed right when I get out of it, and that signals to my brain we are starting my day, so it prepares it for whatever. My other rituals include making a cup of coffee, packing my lunch, writing one thing I am grateful for, and getting into my car. In my car as I mentioned I do another grateful count, and set out a goal in the car and speak to the universe what I want. I know this is not always going to work every day but even if you aim for few days a week and go from there.