Apr 20, 2022 in Therapy
Hard work, patience, kindness, compassion, love, respect, gratitude are the highly effective 7 virtues to build inner life.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
It’s a hard call not to be a victim of the world we see around us; especially when people around us are engaged in the blame game. To achieve inner peace, we must be able to change our distorted perceptions through the societal lens given to us. With so much negativity and violence, is it even feasible to build trust and perceive an innocent world? What I see without is a mere reflection of my perception within my mind. A projection based on the lens of fear, hatred, power, and control.
COVID has shaken our world to the core, making us realize the world is going through paradigm shifts and nature is our biggest teacher. Last couple of years with the pandemic outbreak, racial and terrorist attacks, Ukraine- Russia war, world politics, anti-vax protests, a surge of mass awakening -a cry for freedom (a debatable concept) has caused havoc. A downfall of humanitarian values was seen. Where is this going to end? Were the protestors unaware of the dire consequences? Children, who were meant to be cosy in their beds were sleeping and subjected to violence on the tents put up outside NZ parliament. Police holding barricades and shields to stop the violent protestors never seen in the history of NZ.
Life begins with survival for all human beings and living things. The evolutionary process could not wipe out the hierarchical structure, the status quo creating deadly competition for survival. I experienced the masked face of the corporate world, where people pulled each other down, criticized, and humiliated unnecessarily, feeding on each other’s energies. Being a human is a big blessing, often forgotten in the rat race. The vulnerable ones are easily exploited or emotionally abused.
With mastery over our energies, one can gain control over life. Ignorance or enlightenment, fear or love is a choice as the outer world will not revolve around what you want due to many variables. When fear, anger, pain, misery arises from within, it's time to look within at the behavioural patterns and attachments. Worshipping the body like a temple with exercise, diet, laughter, and sleep along with the mental diet can bring peace, joy into our life, erasing the negativity and bitterness gained through painful experiences. Responsibility gives you the freedom of action and non-action.
The spiritual journey teaches us many lessons which turn to be blessings as one evolves on this path. While going through this transformative process, I was my last priority and always believed in kind deeds. Easier said than done, yet whether to evolve or repeat the lessons was a choice. Ironically, the world’s happiness or sorrow rested on my shoulders. I was vulnerable and extremely sensitive to the toxicity around me. Past hurt and fear had created walls of loneliness, sadness, anger, pain. I wondered is it possible to rise above the labels and treat each other gently with love and beauty? Would it be possible to break the walls of gender, race, religion, labels without hurting the beautiful soul within? “Communist, Catholic, Hindu, Muslims, Jews, Schizophrenic, OCD, BPD, PTSD “the list is endless. We are so clueless that another individual is also a good father, gentleman, dedicated teacher, a good human being, a creator, and a dreamer. The big labels given by Doctors, Politicians, Priests, Gurus, etc overshadow the virtues tarnishing the individual for a lifetime resulting in the modern-day messed up violent, angry bullies. No wonder the suicide and crime rates are on the rise. Are we not responsible for all the anger and violence around to some extent?
The practice of sharing new knowledge was not appealing and criticized even if it was for the betterment of society. To welcome peace, harmony, or the Tao in our life, one needs to consciously observe WHO is going through this experience? Who was hurt? My bruised ego or my true self? How am I feeling? Sometimes, profound wisdom and knowledge about yourself and others can be gained from simple questions. It's a 2 in one win for knowing your true self and increasing the focus.
Understanding that you are the architect of your destiny, with a rich, inner wise world, one can conquer the demons steadily. A glimpse of the safe, kind, peaceful world viewed from the eyes of an innocent child wouldn’t remain a farfetched dream.
Author: Pranoti Gupta
Disclaimer: The above information is a pathway to enrich our inner life in order to create a beautiful, peaceful,safe outer world around us.