This question pops up with women who I coach so many times.

You need to know the definition for of soulmate for yourself. What you looking in your relationship with a man? 

For most women a soulmate is a person who makes you feel comfortable and you being able to be yourself with this person.He is the person who not just receiving things from you but also be able to give you things that you asking for.

Its simple if you feel support,love,care and respect from the man he is your soulmate.