Apr 9, 2021 in Life Coaching
Is Your Relationship Holding You Back?
Ponder this for a moment. Is your relationship holding you back?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
“An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we truly function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes.” – Patricia Fry
Ponder this for a moment. Is your relationship holding you back? There’s no doubt that a loving, intimate relationship can bring about much passion, joy, and a feeling of security in life. It seems the majority of the population craves an intimate relationship with that special someone so that they can share life and love on their journey. There is nothing wrong with that in and of itself, but sometimes there may be a hidden dynamic in a relationship that holds one or both partners back in one or more ways in life.
The dynamics of a healthy relationship
Relationship experts state that each relationship has dynamics or ingredients that make it up. Think of it as a foundation for a house. If the foundation is not correctly laid, in years to come the structural integrity of that house is compromised. If the foundation is strong and meets all necessary building codes, the structural integrity of the house will be fine. Relationships are built upon a foundation as well and sometimes the foundation is shaky, cracked, or there really isn’t one, which will certainly affect the relationship and each partner directly.
What constitutes a healthy relationship foundation?
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When two people fall in love all sorts of things happen between them. A bond is formed, feelings are shared, and a relationship ensues. In the beginning stages of a relationship, love can oftentimes be blind and if you’re not careful, some basic building blocks of the foundation can be neglected. Let’s take trust for example. A firm foundation for any relationship is trust and if one or both partners have trouble trusting the other, problems could come and the relationship may suffer. Other ingredients that make up a healthy relationship are honesty, communication, thoughtfulness, selflessness, and unconditional love.
Can a relationship hold you back?
If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, you may be held back in other areas of your life. For example, let’s say you’re in a relationship in which you are unnecessarily clingy and needy. You’re looking toward your partner to “make you happy” by giving you continual attention. Your primary focus in life is on your partner and your life together. This co-dependency can hold you back in life and cause a host of relationship problems. It’s not your partner’s responsibility to make you happy; it’s yours. Those that struggle with co-dependency tendencies need to begin a journey within to seek fulfilment and stop looking toward others to fill that void.
Another example of how a relationship can hold you back is if you’re partner has settled in certain areas of life and expects you to do the same. Do you have more you want to accomplish in life, but your partner thinks you’re crazy for having such goals? Do you feel pressured to settle or just live according to status quo because your partner is? If so, your relationship is holding you back and it’s time to sit down with your partner and have a serious discussion. Partners don’t have to have the same goals, but if one wants to grow and accomplish the other ought to be fully supportive.
You are who you hang out with
Remember the days when you were young and your parents told you to choose your friends wisely because you become who you hang out with? This philosophy is true in adult relationships as well. If you choose friends and/or an intimate relationship with those that are positive and interested in professional and personal growth, you’ll be more apt to be interested in those. On the other hand, if you spend time with those that are unmotivated or negative, it could very well stifle your growth. Keep in mind that when it comes to your relationship, it is desirable that both partners have the desire to grow professionally and personally, as this balances the relationship.
Take a few minutes to think about your relationship. Do you feel like it’s holding you back in any way from accomplishing your goals? If so, do the necessary work to push through the obstacles that hold you back. You might have to have a discussion with your partner. Or maybe you’ve been stagnant for a while because your focus has been on your partner instead of your growth. Talk about your individual goals and as well as the goals you share. Communication and growth are important ingredients in a relationship. Do your best to stay motivated and be proactive in your personal and relational growth, as you can both be growing individually and as a couple. This is optimal living.
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