Jan 20, 2022 in Life Coaching
Stop Living By the Rules of Other People!
Talks about not living by others rules,and start living by yours.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Stop Living By the Rules of Other People!
At one point or another many of us have either cared about what other people thought about us or have allowed naysayers to block the path to us moving forward. I totally get it. But what I don't get is why some people continue that way of living to the point that they are not even living the life they desire to live, because they are living the life that others desire for them to live.There is nothing wrong with taking some advice from others, especially when it is done out of love and concern, but don't allow people to put you in a box.People are always going to have something to say. So if they are going to talk you might as well be living a life that makes you happy, right?people allow the fire for their dreams to get snuffed out because someone doubted them, or because someone told them that their dream was too difficult to achieve, or because someone didn't support them.we can't allow what other people think or say to keep us chained to a life of settling.
There has to be a mindset shift that occurs. We have to get to that point where we think and believe in a way that is in alignment with what we want to see manifest in our life.that mean that things will be easy when we are working toward a goal? No it doesn't. But what it does mean is that we are not going to kill our dreams before they even get birthed, and we are not going to allow anyone else to do it either.walking around with a dream stuck in your heart. Who is that helping? It isn't helping anyone.When God places a dream in your heart it should be big, right? He is a big God so why would He give you a small dream?because your dream is too big for others to conceive doesn't mean that it is too big for you to achieve.never ever shrink down your dream to fit the small thinking of others. That is only going to make you feel discouraged and frustrated. And it can also cause you to be stuck in neutral, instead of moving forward. It is time for you to unleash the confidence to not only follow your dreams but to achieve them. And don't let anything stop you. You are amazing, you are driven, and you are powerful. And you've got this! Think about the bigger picture
We all have a finite amount of time in which to live our lives, and every day that goes by is one day less you have to live a life that’s true to yourself.Taking a step back, considering the bigger picture, and remembering that your time is limited can help you stay focused on your real dreams and goals, rather than the dreams or goals you think you should have. Invest in your self-awareness
Therapy, coaching, and self-work like journaling are all useful tools for life transitions, including moving towards a life that is more satisfying and meaningful to you.Not only will these tools support you through the process of questioning your beliefs, but they will also help you uncover your authentic values, and look ahead to create a vision for a life that is truly yours.Remember that it’s your life
As obvious as it might sound, remember that your life is your your own and that, as much as other people might give you advice, you are the one who will have to live with the consequences of that advice. Keeping this reality in mind can help you distance yourself from other people’s opinions and beliefs. Every now and again we all run into that person who gives us unwanted advice, who introduces us to “the rules of reality. I could never understand why such people believed it all right to do so — if they were reciting these rules from a book, I sure as hell have never laid eyes upon it. Life has no rules.This is what people fail to realize. Sure, the town you live in has rules. The country you live in has rules. The workplace you work in has rules.“I'm the one that's got to die when it's time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.” – Jimi Hendrix
If the life that you have now really is the only life you will ever have, then why are you allowing others to tell you how you should live it?Why should anyone care if you choose to tattoo every inch of your body or make amateur porn videos on a daily basis? Why should anyone else care if you eat like a pig?
We really are free to live our lives however we wish and to make of them whatever we want to make of them. There will always be people that will tell you otherwise, that will expect and command that you conform — but you can just tell them to f*ck off. If you feel that your life is being run by someone other than you, then you must break that chain around your neck and begin truly living.We can all break free of the mundane sameness that we are subject to — we ourselves choose to live the way that we are living. We may rationalize our situations and tell ourselves that we are purely the children of our circumstances, but that’s complete crap. If you are in a bad situation and don’t plan on getting out of it, then you are choosing to stay in a bad situation. You are making the conscious decision not to take hold of your life and to change it the way you see fit.“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”- Oscar Wilde
What is it that you want out of life? Where do you wish to go? What do you wish to see? What experiences do you want to have? Whom do you want to share them with? Too few people take the time to think about such things. They simply go through their daily routines, passing time. One day time will run out and that clock will no longer tick.