Apr 17, 2021 in Life Coaching
Rational Brain vs Emotional Brain
This is a very simplified version of how our brain works.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Prefrontal Cortex is our rational brain the most evolved part of the brain, it's what sets us apart from all other species. It's the part of the brain we use to imagine, to set goals, to plan, to problem solve, to manage our emotions, to keep ourselves focused on a task etc. The Limbic System instead is our emotional brain, it’s impulsive, in fact it’s much faster than our rational brain. It’s where our instinctive emotional and motivational behaviours come from. For example, when someone angers you and you feel like shouting at them (that is your Limbic system) but you keep your composure (that is your PFC that has intervened).
Unlike the limbic system, the PFC requires a lot of energy to work, and its energy gets depleted throughout the day like your phone. The lower the energy level the more the limbic system would take over during decision making, think about how impatient you get when you are hungry. While we might be tempted to find a way to only use our rational brain, our lymbic system is actually very useful because it's the that will keep you alive if all of a sudden you see a car approching fast while you are crossing the road, if we leave it to our PFC we might not have the time to just jump off the road and it's teh one that makes you jump out of joy when you receive a good news. The secret is to know when it's best to use one and the other, if you want to learn to manage your anger for instance you want to exercise your PFC for example. Coaching can you give you that space you need to find your own way to take a pause and manage situations in the best way.