Jan 29, 2021 in Coaching
The importance of 'Emotional Intelligence'
Is a high I.Q? All you need to get by in life? Or is there something else just as valuable that you need to learn ?
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
I have been thinking lately about what elements are vital when we are recovering and healing from our past and trying to become a better person and experience more happiness.
We have skills and strategies that come from Psychology based theories; Cognitive behaviour therapy, Neuro linguistic programming, Emotional freedom techniques and many more.
But I honestly believe at the core of all healing is a practice that is overlooked and that practice is one of ‘Emotional Intelligence.
Intelligence is generally thought of on an intellectual level, but what about being able to manage our emotions to improve and enhance our lives and in society? Should we not take responsibility for the impact we can have on others and also how we create and protect our own happiness? If you have ever experienced anxiety, I have no need to tell you how powerful it can be, taking you to the brink of fear and often paralyzing you. If you have fears of abandonment and separation anxiety, you know that the strong emotions can drive you to do things and act out in ways you never normally would.
Yes it’s true, emotional intelligence is indeed a key player in our lives so why is it not many are teaching it I wonder?
Maybe it’s because emotional intelligence is not directly linked to financial success in society? Yet is it so important. I mean you can have the greatest education and be a fountain of knowledge, but if you cannot go out into the world and share what you know with others, through confidence and belief in yourself, combined with a resilience to let go of rejection, what good is it?
Would you not want to be able to not get offended so easily? To be flexible in your outlook? Be a good judge of character? Play to your strengths, know your weaknesses and choose wisely what people and situations are good for you and be able to say ‘NO’ without feeling fear of guilt, reprisal or rejection?
Imagine being able to delay gratification and avoid taking impulsive action.To let go of mistakes and no longer beat yourself up and berate yourself.
Are you currently able to give without expectation of anything in return? Not hold grudges and either remove toxic people from your life, or manage your way around them so as to not rock your own emotional boat of balance and happiness?
There are many other ways that we can become emotionally intelligent and all of them have a huge impact on the results in our lives, our relationships with ourselves and others, our mental wellbeing, health, wealth and how we experience life on a day to day basis.
For more info and access to my newly created course on 'Emotional Intelligence' go here https://connectedtoself.com/courses/emotional-intelligence-as-healing/