Nov 11, 2020 in Career Coaching

Obstacles in your path to success

Locus of Control

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

6 Jun

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

6 Jun

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

8 Jun

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

5 Jun

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

6 Jun

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

6 Jun

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

6 Jun

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

8 Jun

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

8 Jun

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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We all have a vision of who we want to be. When we meet our goals, we come closer to being the person which we aspire to be. What happens though then when we do not meet our goals? Well it can be downright devastating and seem impossible to overcome.

Successful people know that there are two types of obstacles, real barriers, and perceived ones. Do you believe that you control the circumstances and outcomes in your life or do you think it's a matter of luck or fate?

In the 60's, a psychologist named JB Rotter introduced the concept of, Locus of Control. Locus of Control is a persons perception of his or her control over events and outcomes. If a person has an internal Locus of Control they believe success is the result of effort and one's own abilities. Alternately, a person with an external Locus of Control attributes outcomes to luck or fate, ultimately outside his or her control.

Research has shown that having an internal Locus of Control correlates to academic success and job satisfaction. These individuals take initiative and responsibility for actions. They tend to be healthier, have less stress and live longer. So, what is your Locus of Control? Do outside forces determine your fate, or do you believe that you have the ability to control personal circumstances, improve conditions and bringing about change? Your ability to succeed is greatly influenced by how you answer the question.

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