Nov 13, 2020 in Life Coaching
The resilient person transcends this current situation, they are so much more!
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Following last weeks’ blog on Adaptability I was asked about my views on Resilience and it would be quite straightforward to devote this blog to coping strategies within the confines and restrictions of the pandemic but actually the resilient person transcends this current situation, they are so much more!
When I think about resilience, Nelson Mandela is one of the first people that comes to mind. One of the many things that he can teach us is the extent to which a resilient mindset can turn setbacks into opportunities.
As he once said ‘Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.’
Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not saying that we all have to be in possession of Mandela’s resilience and thankfully few of us will ever be tested in the way that he was.
It’s all relative.
But for me resilience and mindset are inseparable.
When you have a ‘growth’ or ‘positive’ mindset you confront challenges and adversity and look at how you can do better. You don’t blame others or circumstances or environment for where you are at.
In researching the subject of Resilience, Diane Coutu (former Senior Editor at HBR) concluded that ‘resilient people’ all demonstrated the following three qualities;
A staunch acceptance of reality – you accept your current reality for what it is.
A deep belief that life is meaningful – you know that life has meaning and that helps you look beyond whatever is in front of you.
An uncanny ability to improvise – you don’t give up on life, you get creative in finding ways to improve or cope with your situation.
She summarised that ‘You can bounce back from hardship with just one or two of these qualities, but you will only be truly resilient with all three.’
When I look through LinkedIn it’s sad to read about former colleagues out of work due to the impact of the pandemic but equally encouraging to see others moving on to bigger and better things.
What makes the difference?
It reminds me of a story about Joe Torre ex-Manager at the New York Yankees.
‘Getting fired (losing your job) is never good. I remembered the time I was fired after my second job and I was pretty low, and my wife said “How are you going to be remembered?” and I said “Maybe as the guy who failed to live his dreams” and she said “Why – are you dead?”
The reality is that the only time that you are unable to move forward, improve your situation, strive for greater things is, when you are dead.
The people who are successful, who bounce back, who recover from hardship and adversity, they are resilient, they’ve learned how to deal with setbacks.
They get on with it!
They never lose sight of their goal, they ‘roll with the punches’.
Resilience demonstrates a strong mindset it’s a skill and a capacity to be strong under adverse conditions of great stress and change.
You think like a winner – even if you did not win, you learn from the experience, and take the positives from the experience.
When in Downing Street Alastair Campbell used to keep a postcard in his pocket listing 10 little acronyms, the seventh of which was GGOOB – get good out of bad!
And we’re back to mindset!
Your mindset will determine your response to failure or adversity. Is it something that you face, deal with and learn from or is it something that nags away at you for the rest of your life?
It is possible to change your mindset.
It is possible to build resilience and be resilient!
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