Nov 24, 2022 in Life Coaching
Buddha, a great teacher is known for his wisdom and philosophy. This path leads us to be our best version to serve humanity.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Intrigued by this fascinating title, I decided to review the book, 'Buddha's Brain by Rick Hanson and Richard Mendius. It not only talks about Buddha's philosophy but highlights simple life-changing lessons to stimulate your brain for more fulfilling relationships, a deeper spiritual life, and a greater sense of inner confidence and worth.
Buddha shared his knowledge with his disciples while walking this path of enlightenment. We often become judgemental about other's life but we hardly see the difference in the journeys and the obstacles they had to overcome to reach this destination. Why do we forget our paths are unique just like us? So what's the comparison or competition about? A writer writes the beginning of a story and decides the ending too. Similarly, you are the author of your life and your happiness or sorrow is in your hands. Happiness is a state of mind which can be attained by having a positive attitude even in difficult circumstances. It all depends on the outlook whether you see a glass half full or half empty. Buddha chose a simple and natural life.
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We all can relate to the memory of a child getting his jabs and the Mum distracting him so he doesn't feel the pain. Amazingly, the trick worked. The human mind runs with approx 60,000 thoughts per day. So how can we get tied up with one thought or perception? The bundle of thoughts creates a mesh or burden we carry for years together to create overthinking minds. With stimulants and neurotransmitters like Dopamine, Serotonin in excess can go into overdrive easily.
The 3 pounds of tofu inside the coconut can help us be more resilient, happier, and productive. All the responses or emotions of overwhelm, anxiety, depression, fear, guilt, hatred, love, defense mechanisms, etc. are a result of the 3 trillion neurons and synapses firing the signals. Mental activity maps to neural activity. Repeated patterns change the neural structure. The bottom line is you can use your mind to change your brain for the better. That's why it's called self-directed neuroplasticity which is a powerful concept about rewiring your brain to change a behaviour pattern or be focussed or emotionally intelligent and so on.
Be nice to our future selves. We are often very hard on ourselves. A lame joke how many therapists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one. But the light bulb needs to be willing to make a change. The task is only to align with your higher self and focus on your growth. Being a good friend to yourself so you can lean more on yourself. Feel cared for and loved by people around you. A pet, friends, colleagues, etc. It amps the circuits and you start reciprocating the feelings of love and care.
Physiological changes in the different parts of the brain occurred as we progressed on the evolutionary scale. The parasympathetic nervous system is the antidote to the sympathetic nervous system- fight or flight response. We evolved the capacity to deal with an immediate threat or opportunity. In modern life, we may not have the zebra running in panic from the lion but we have mild to moderate chronic stress with very little time for recovery with the recurring waves of stress which violates mother nature's blueprint resulting in negative effects on physical and mental well-being. We need to be fiercely committed to our well-being and then come home to a feeling of love, healing, and happiness.
Cultivating positive emotions is an important building block to improving brain function. Be kind to yourself and other people. Be happy for other people. Seeing the good in others builds positive synapses. Regular practice can change the neural structure which can be done even with strangers. It helps you orient life in a centered way understanding you are part of a big whole and seeing the bigger picture while detaching from the process. Drive the truth to the lying brain so that the cravings do not pop- up from a deficit mentality.
The 7 billion people in the world today need to take in the good as most of our problems are delusional due to ignorance and avoiding systems. With this new insight, we can see each other from a whole, peaceful perspective.
Author: Pranoti Gupta
Disclaimer: The wisdom of the article can be profoundly used for cognitive behavioural therapy to live happy, healthy lives.