Jun 13, 2020 in Life Coaching
Thinking is The Most Important Function of The Brain and Rational Thinking is Key to Self Control
This article will focus on the importance of rational thinking to solve problems and how important it is for us think first.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
I have written an anger management guide which focuses on the human brains ability to think. The guide is called "The Rational Thinking Model of Cognitive Self Change". The purpose of the guide is to get people to think about their reactions to problems before they re-act to the problem out of emotion. The first thing discussed is what the definition of rational thinking is, rational thinking is thinking about our actions before we act or react to any situation. It is also rationalizing behavior verses consequence. For every action, there is an equal or opposite reaction, for every cause, there is an effect, and for every behavior, there is a consequence. We are free as humans to make any choice and decision that we want to make, but no one is exempt from the consequences of their choices or decisions. Therefore, to get good consequences we must make good choices and good decisions. Rational Thinking allows one to Stop what they are doing, Think about the situation at hand, Assess the possible actions and reactions that they can take to deal with the problem, and then React to the situation with the hopes of the most favorable consequence being the result. That is the acroynym of S.T.A.R., being used to form a rational thinking process. The other part of the guide focuses on Cognitive Self Change which is changing the way one acts by changing the way that one thinks. The bottom line is that the world happens, things happen, events happen, and people happen. The reality is that we can only control one thing in this whole world and that is ourself. When things happen, we must learn to shift our focus from the action of what is happening, to the focus of how we are going to react to what is happening. This is called rational thinking, thinking about our actions before we act or react. If we can learn to control that which we can control, and stop trying to control the things that we cannot control, we will be less frustrated which will help to keep our emotions in control. When others can control our emotions they can control us. If you do not want to be controlled by other people, things, or events, then learn to control, "YOURSELF"!