Aug 29, 2023 in Life Coaching

Sheldon

This is the first of a 3 part series on Autism.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

17 Jan

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

17 Jan

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

17 Jan

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

17 Jan

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

17 Jan

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

17 Jan

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

17 Jan

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Sheldon

Today I was watching an American television show called “The Big Bang Theory.” The character named Sheldon has Asperger’s Syndrome. Aspergers Syndrome is a part of the Autism Spectrum and if you haven’t met someone with this “disorder” (in quotes on purpose because I don’t like to think of it as a disorder, just a different way of looking at and experiencing the world). People on “the spectrum” as we in the business call it, are some of my favorite people to be around.

I like sometimes that they have no filter, and they say flat out what they feel. Sheldon is an excellent model of someone on the spectrum who is, called high functioning. He is brilliant at physics, but often has problems navigating relationships with other people and the world in general. He doesn’t like change (who does?), he has a set way of doing things and routines (so do I). Perseverations (being stuck on a certain subject and bringing it up over and over again, additionally, the persons’ behavior may also be highly ritualized (such as head banging or picking at their skin or knocking on the door a certain number of times) while this can be annoying at times their behavior has a purpose:

Have a feeling of security.
Understand what other people expect of them.
Understanding what might happen next.
What they should do.

When this happens, boundaries need to be set, such as “You can ask about this 3 more times and then it’s finished.” Or “I will set a timer for two minutes and then, no more talk of______.” The latter is good because the timer is the “bad guy” not you.

This was a short blog to get you thinking about understanding people who don’t always take in the world in the way that other people do. While we all live in different realities us neurotypicals are in the majority and we have similarities, that people who are “wired” differently do not always have. I plan to do two more posts this week on people who find themselves on “the ASD spectrum”.

As always, Be safe, kind and well!