Apr 4, 2023 in Life Coaching
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
This is the girl equivalent to a “wing man” for men. It means that when you go out to a bar or party where there are single people looking to meet up with other singles and connect with others, you take along someone who is less attractive than you think that you are, so you look extra attractive to a prospective mate, by comparison. It’s a terrible thing to do to someone, even if they know they are being used.
In the past, I have been the “fat friend.” At first, I didn’t realize that was the role that I was in. I was just happy to be accepted (or so I thought) and asked if I wanted to go to a bar with some women that I knew were prettier than me. I knew that compared to them; with my curly and sometimes frizzy hair and less than perfect body (not fat or skinny body type) that for all their flaws miniscule as they may be, made them look better and perhaps even more attractive to the men at the club.
Compared to them, I didn’t know how to act or get the men to buy me drinks or ask me to dance. I was always the smart one and the funny one, not the beautiful/charismatic one. I had always been made fun of because of my big and curly hair and those mean jibes from my past really effected my self-confidence. So, fast forward to the night club…when I was in the restroom, I heard one of the women talking to another one. She was asking her if she thought that I knew why they had asked me along?
The woman said she wasn’t sure, but she thought I was beginning to “pickup” on it. There is also such a thing as a “pig party” when pretty girls would bring the least attractive person that they could find to a party, and they would win a prize and the person they brought along would be ridiculed and humiliated (Think about the movie Carrie by Steven King). When I was growing up, I was the “fat friend” a lot and it hurt, not just in the moment but from then on, often times.
I don’t know why people are cruel like that, I have never really understood human cruelty. I just know it hurts and leaves scars that sometimes last a lifetime. I think that this type of cruelty can lead to violent events in the future (think school shootings), but they don’t have to. How do some people rise up and become more resilient in the face of human cruelty?
I read once that a major contributing factor in resilience for children is one caring adult and that this person doesn’t even have to be related to them. The other way a person can overcome the scars of their childhood or even more recent wounds is to realize that our very human experience of our lives really doesn’t come from events outside of us (unless we let it), It comes from the inside out. We don’t have to let the thoughts and cruelty imposed on us become a part of our self-image or let pain and humiliation become a state of being for us. We can reject their opinion of us as the “fat friend” and see ourselves as we truly are; an integral part of something far bigger and more beautiful than just looks.