Sep 21, 2021 in Life Coaching
What is your idea of perfection? Accepted by whom? Based on whose criteria?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Look at the picture above. Some would look at this bowl and say, "It's not perfect. It's not round; it's not smooth; it's too small to be used for anything; the color is inconsistent; one side is thinner than the other. It's just impractical. What good is this?"
"What purpose does this bowl serve?"
"What is it here for?"
I say it's perfect. It wasn't precision-made in a factory or crafted by an individual with years of skill, rather by our daughter in elementary school. And although I am partial to my daughter, it's not perfect because she made it; it's perfect because it's imperfect. It's perfect because it's one of a kind. That bowl above can not be replicated by any human hands. That's what makes it perfect.
A client of mine once shared, "if I can't do it perfectly, why bother trying? It's just a waste of time."
This idea of perfection that we unrealistically strive to achieve not only invades our work life, social life, and intimate life, it also creeps into our personal appearance. We have been lied to for so much of our lives, some of us believe that we have to change our entire appearance and even gender to be accepted.
Add to myWE:
We are born perfect, without blemish, until we get old enough to be told "No", or "You're not good enough", or "What were you thinking?" Over the years we have been fed lies that we are not smart enough, tall enough, thin enough, buff enough, or the right color. We have been lied to that we need this degree, that career, those friends, that wife to have a perfect life. We have to drive this car, belong to this club, or live in this subdivision, or be sure the children go to this school.
This is when I ask, What is your idea of perfection? Accepted by whom? Based on whose criteria?
Like that bowl above, each one of us as individuals is uniquely handcrafted and there is not one person on this entire earth that is like another. We are all unique in every way. Even twins have unique fingerprints.
Each one of us was called into existence for a specific purpose. My purpose is different than my wife's. My neighbor's purpose is different from mine.
When you realize how truly unique, special and powerful you are, you realize you don't have time or interest in being someone else, because you are too busy being you!
I believe the best possible way to live a fulfilled life is to learn to accept that you are perfect, whole, and complete. Just the way you are. The next step is to understand your purpose, and then enjoy the freedom of letting go of the unrealistic idea of perfection. There is freedom when you embrace your uniqueness and let go of perfection; you will rid yourself of your own unrealistic expectations and truly begin to experience freedom, and ultimately, your true purpose.
If you would like to learn more about discovering yourself and your purpose, please reach out to me.
Original article: https://walking-in-love.net/start-here/f/perfect-imperfection