Apr 23, 2020 in Public Speaking

What is holding you back? A Guide to identifying your concerns with public speaking

From communications coach Monty Leigh: A guide on how to identify the core issue that is making Public Speaking a challenge. What are your roadblocks?

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Ava Garcia

17 Jan

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

9 May

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

17 Jan

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

17 Jan

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

17 Jan

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

17 Jan

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

17 Jan

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

17 Jan

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

17 Jan

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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We have all experienced it. Stage fright. You are well prepared, well versed, well practiced - but the moment you step in front of a crowd (or your colleagues) you feel a sinking feeling in your stomach. You start to sweat, your words seem stiff and incoherent and you rush through your points.

What happens after? Your presentation or speech has not been digested properly, and all of your wonderful ideas that you spent hours working on seem to not have landed how you intended.

It is highly frustrating, and as a communications coach, I know that for some people it is totally unpredictable. You feel wholeheartedly ready, and then it just hits.

My theory on why this happens: you have not identifed your real issue with talking publicly. Often, we try and combat stage fright with learning more performance techniques - but this isn't productive as we have not dealt with the underlying issue which will not go away with tongue twisters.

Yes, I suppose I am advocating part therapy/part coaching, but the therapy part you can do alone. What you must identify is:

THE 4 CHAMPIONS & THE 4 MONSTERS

4 Champions of performance - Who has/is supporting you when performing publicly?

4 Monsters (Yes, it can be your boss) - Who has/is put you in distress or discomfort when performing?

Once we know that, we have something to work with. We undo the feelings that manifest from these specific incidents.

If you sign up to hourly Coaching with Monty Leigh, you will be asked to do various bits of homework prior to the session to identify these issues, then we can work on pieceing together a new, improved performer with no hang-ups.