Jul 30, 2020 in Career Coaching
From fitting the mold, to tailoring the mold to fit YOU
Everyone is a unique individual. Build your personality and stand-out from the mainstream.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
In the age of the mainstream- personalizing services, processes, activities, and more to fit your needs can lead to peace of mind, alignment, and more growth.
I was an athlete in High School and moving to the United States for college meant I was focused on my academics and nothing else. I would regularly go to the gym as a form of self-care, and my love for fitness and helping people lead me to get my personal training certification. I thoroughly enjoyed working with students and faculty to achieve their fitness goals, and what I found was that people would often come to me with the goal to "get fit," "lose x pounds," or "tone up" after having tried to do it on their own and failed.
But what I also found was that people would often first try the mainstream methods of getting fit: Crossfit, lifting heavy weight, trying workout routines that Instagram influencers had posted, fad diets and more. This left them not only giving up on their goals within the first few weeks but also feeling demotivated because of their inconsistency and not achieving their goals.
My style of personal training was to understand my client: their likes, dislikes, goals, personality, lifestyle, and eating habits; and tailor the exercise program to fit their needs. I never started with the mold (the exercise program) and imposed it on my client. That would lead them to fail. Instead, I tailored the mold to fit my client. Sure enough, they would see results in no time and until today I have former clients continuing on their healthy lifestyle journeys even without me. What caused their success was not merely the workout or fitness expertise, but the very fact that the exercise program was personalized.
We see these examples in many other scenarios as well. Very often people fail at something or get discouraged because the way other people are doing things or the "mainstream" just isn't working for them. Everyone got an internship in college and went on to get a job offer before graduation but you have graduated without an offer and are feeling discouraged. Everyone in your circle loves a 5am workout routine but you are not a morning person and you beat yourself up about it. Most successful business owners you know climbed the corporate ladder and then branched out to start their own business, and you feel the urge and passion to skip the ladder and build your own but everyone advises you not to.
Tailoring the mold to fit you centers around personalization. There is a concept, a method, a process, a service or a product, and then there is what you do with it. Your path and your process are unique and the art of personalization in all areas of your life will leave you feeling more at peace, feeling more fulfilled with your choices, and ultimately more content.
Think about ways in which you can incorporate personalization into your life in the midst of the mainstream. Success definitely leaves clues, but don't compare your process to someone else's. Use the mold, tailor it, and make it fit you.
Writer: Cindy Makita | Analyst, Millennial Career Coach, Global Citizen