Jan 15, 2020 in Public Speaking
It's what you do inside your head as well as your external preparation that determines how well you present to an audience.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Fear of delivering presentations and public speaking is the number one fear in business throughout the world.
Being frightened to stand up and deliver a presentation is what stops many people progressing to where they aspire to get to in their career.
Over the years I have started to notice an increase in the number of clients investing in coaching specifically to help them deliver powerful presentations, because they understand that this a valuable skill.
In this article I would like to share with you some of the ways that you can help yourself and others present well.
One of the first questions I ask my Executive Coaching clients is “When you think about presenting, who are you focused on?”
Nine times out of ten the answer I get is “I am focusing on how well I will be able to deliver my presentation”
Well guess what they are focusing in the wrong place. The art of delivering engaging presentations is focusing on the message and the audience, rather than yourself.
A presenter is only the catalyst that connects an audience with a specific message.
It is the way that this is done that creates the magic people notice.
In the words of Maya Angelou “At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”
I also ask my clients “Have you ever considered that every member of your audience will experience the presentation you deliver in their own specific way?”
Most people never give this a thought because they are too busy focusing on themselves!
How we imagine something has a direct impact on how we do something. What you think, has a direct impact on how you feel.
For example, if you say to yourself “I am rubbish at presenting” (even if you have never presented before) you have to imagine what it is like to deliver a rubbish presentation.
You will probably start by running a movie in your head where you see yourself making a fool of yourself in front of others.
People are laughing at you, your voice is trembling, in fact you may even start to notice your palms sweating and you may even feel shaky as you get that horrible feeling in your stomach.
The thought of getting up in front of others just fills you with dread and no way are you going to offer to do a presentation.
Now compare that to imagining yourself delivering a really engaging presentation. Thinking to yourself “I deliver great presentations ” what type of movies are you imagining now?
I guess you are seeing yourself standing confidently in front of your audience and being engaging, interactive and enjoying being there. People are interested in what you are talking about and you are feeling good.
Now of course you just can’t expect to give a great presentation just because you imagine you can!!
You have to know your subject, create visually appealing slides, transition smoothly between slides, have good eye contact with your audience, use your voice powerfully and have the energy to keep people engaged.
Many people attend presentation courses and still can’t present well, because no matter how many external skills you learn, it is what is going inside your head that determines the results.
Olympic Gold Medal winners know this, as well as doing the physical practice they add ‘mental rehearsal’ where they see, feel and hear what it is like to win that gold.
So whether you are doing this for yourself, or coaching people in presentation skills, the trick is as well as preparing physically for a presentation, add ‘mental rehearsal’ by imagining the following:
- Seeing yourself speaking confidently
- Imagining the audience interacting with you
- Finishing the presentation and hearing the applause
- Being passionate and enthusiastic about your subject
- Enjoying yourself
It is estimated that every minute of a presentation requires one hour of physical preparation. By adding ‘mental rehearsal’ not just once, but as many times as you need to really create the feeling that this is something you enjoy doing you will start to present engaging and powerful presentations.