Aug 1, 2023 in Life Coaching

A Gutter King will Pull Down a Beauty Queen

Kings & Queens are not equal, but not as you might think. The one with the greater rule, wields the biggest heart.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

28 Sep

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

28 Sep

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

28 Sep

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

12 Sep

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

28 Sep

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

28 Sep

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

28 Sep

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

28 Sep

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

28 Sep

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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The kind of queen you are will determine the kind of king you attract. Every woman is a beauty queen, but not because of makeup, fine clothes and gorgeous hair. Real beauty queens exist because of the inward beauty that sustains the luster of the beauty that is seen.

As a general rule, men don’t look for inner beauty first, but are attracted by what is seen. As a beauty queen, you will naturally attract attention. But you must vet the type of king you are attracting and determine if you should proceed. Ask yourself, “Is this the kind of attention I want?”

When you know what you want, you’ll also know what you don’t want. Only you can define what the gutter means to you. Then, you must determine if you are routinely attracted to a Gutter King. Here are some hints.

In your present relationship, are you going up or are you going down? In other words, have things been better since you met him? If you can’t tell the difference, you’re in trouble already. Ambivalence is a great place to hide when queens are not in command of what type of king they want. Living in the state of having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about someone is dangerous. If this is where the queen resides, stop dating immediately until you figure this out.

If you’re married to a Gutter King, you’ll need to pray a lot more than you did when you said, “I do”. I’ll address Kings and Queens who are married at a later time.

If you’re on the fence about what a Gutter King looks like, ask yourself, “How many excuses do I make for him?” and, “How many signs do I overlook?” If your King is on the “At Least He List” he nor you are ready for what this will look like.

The “At Least He List”

At least he’s trying.
At least I got a man.
At least he has a job.
At least he is not abusive.
At least he tolerates my kids.
At least he comes home sometimes.
At least he doesn’t text her anymore.
At least he shows me some attention.
At least he prays every now and then.
At least he only gets high only on the weekends.

You, nor a Gutter King are born to live this low. Make up your mind to move in the direction of your goals. Become the kind of queen you know you were born to become. Clean out your royal court, and go to work on you.

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