Jun 25, 2020 in Online Consultations
Relationship Break up
Relationship break up can be frustrating and worst of all devastating. There are different ways to come up with solutions
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
In any situation where two people meet and bond in the context of a relationship. A considerable level of dependency on each other develops. When the relationship breaks down, voids are left in both people concerned and it can be unbearable for the couple or one person. In my nine years of relationship counselling/ family Psychotherapy, I have come across situations where most of the people affected, cannot distinguish between a temporary break up and a permanent break up; in the aftermath of a separation.
This is mainly due to behaviours or words uttered in the course of heated arguments prior to the other partner walking away. What we all fail to realise is the fact that during a quarrel, we may say what we don’t mean or what has been brought about by frustration as a result of bottling in on matters that could have been easily discussed and resolved before they spiralled of control.
Anyway; regardless of how bad the situation may look. There are different ways of looking at the situation and starting over again on a clean slate. Nonetheless, it all depends on how much the two people involved are prepared to make an effort to get back from where they left it off or whether they want to engage in a more amicable and civil manner to pave the way forward or even make a complete closure. Either way; it’s not a matter of pride or ego. Those two factors must be eliminated in the first instance. We all want to love and be loved by those we choose to be in a relationship. To that end. It’s well worth our efforts to fight for our love and happiness. We deserve to be happy. Where children are involved. This matter must be treated with utmost sensitivity because they are our responsibility and we owe them a great measure of stability.
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Now; getting back to the most important aspect of distinguishing a temporary or permanent break up. In the aftermath of a separation. Individuals must take time to reflect on what went wrong and if they could have done something for a better outcome or if they can still try to rectify whatever it was that led to the disagreement. Maybe it’s something that they can approach in a different way; compromise, agree to disagree or it just wasn’t possible to resolve without the other person meeting them halfway? Did they do whatever they did because of what other people might think or they just want to make up to save face? Be true to yourself. After all; it’s only two people within a relationship and that is what really matters.
Some people may even get reduced to a sense of helplessness as they wait for a phone call that may never come.
Having said all this. There is hope and there is absolutely nothing wrong in being the bigger person by picking up that phone and taking action to make things work out. A problem discussed is a problem half solved. Remember, picking up from where you left is a gradual process