Jan 22, 2020 in Life Coaching

What Are You Expecting?

Relationships can be difficult as you are dealing with different personalities. Your perception and expectations can help.

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Ava Garcia

28 Sep

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

28 Sep

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

28 Sep

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

28 Sep

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

12 Sep

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

28 Sep

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

28 Sep

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

28 Sep

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

28 Sep

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

28 Sep

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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As a Coach, I often deal with many clients who have difficulty in their relationships due to lack of communication. This then leads to expectations not being met and negative presumptions about each other being made. None of this is healthy.

So how do you deal with a lack of communication in your relationship?

As with everything in life, the first important rule is not to point the finger. It's never so much about what your partner is not doing in the relationship, as to what you are feeling and projecting out into the relationship.

Playing victim to circumstance will only cause you to go deeper into feeling let down by your partner, which can never lead to a resolution. You have to gain clarity on where you stand within the context of the situation.

How do you do this?

1. Get clear on what you want from the relationship and from the situation. Do you just want to prove that you are right all the time, or do you actually want the situation resolved where both of you are left feeling good?

2. Get solution orientated. If the solution to the situation calls for you to change your viewpoint on things and consider their feelings, are you prepared to do this, so things can get better? How do you feel about doing this? If you feel that it makes you weak, maybe a perception change is needed here.

3. Change the scenery. Sometimes stepping away from the environment together and seeking neutral ground for a few days, can bring you closer and open the lines of communication again.

Whatever choice of action you choose to take, remember that in order for any problems to be resolved, you need to get out of your head and take the 'observer' view of everything. You need to stop asking why or how and force things to go your way...sometimes you just need to breathe and head back in with a fresh outlook to it all, without taking everything too personally.

It works wonders!