Jun 6, 2023 in Life Coaching
Victim of Your Exes
Are you still a victim of your ex? Could you be sabotaging your future because of it? We delve deeper into this topic.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
So I was watching one of my favourite reality shows (only a select few make the grade for Coach Rita) 'The Hills: New Beginnings' last week and one of the arguments (yes these happen frequently in these shows), was between Stephanie Pratt and Audrina Partridge regarding a situation with a guy (of course) and one of the things that Stephanie said to Audrina was
"You are a victim of your exes!" Apologies if it was said a little differently on the show, but this was the gist of it.
It got me thinking - not only about whether this is true about Audrina, but is true for many of us.
Think about this for a moment -
Does your ex still haunt your current relationship? Do you make comparisons?
Do you find you often talk about them and the pain they caused you or the upset of what went wrong with friends and family?
Do you hold back in life and in new relationships, due to what happened in your previous relationships?
Add to myWE:
Are you always getting emotional when you think back to what happened?
Does your ex still call you and you feel obliged to be there for them?
If you said yes to any of these questions...you are a victim of your ex/exes (depending on how many exes you hold these feelings about)
I understand that some of you may have children with your ex and therefore, they will still be a part of your life due to the care of the children, but when it comes to emotions and moving forward if this becomes a negative cycle, it's time to get stronger.
Nobody and I mean nobody should be the reason you hold back from moving forward. But if you give the past your power then guess what...they hold the power.
So how do you stop being a victim to your exes?
First of all - don't read more into things if it isn't there anymore. If you can see that the signals they give is purely platonic and you are happy for it to stay that way too then it's great. But if it becomes one-sided, you need to get the hell out of there and stop blaming them for leading you on. You see what you want to see.
Secondly, let go of the 'blame game'. The relationship didn't end well. Let it go and move on with your life. What you do in life now, is your responsibility and has nothing to do with them. They are not to blame for how you are feeling now. Its a choice you are making to carry the suffering with you and extend it. Be thankful you are out of the negative relationship and focus on yourself and creating new healthier relationships.
Thirdly, if you are feeling emotional...spend time in meditation and release all that pent-up emotion through regular quiet time. It will do you the world of good and you'll heal a hell of a lot quicker.
Too many people, especially us women are victims of exes and it's time to let this go. Your life is too precious to carry this heavy negative energy around with you for years onwards.
Be the strong woman that you are and declare today that 'No more will you be the victim of any of your exes' and release that damn negative energy once and for all.