Aug 19, 2019 in Life Coaching
Your Pattern of Belief
Our thought patterns influence the actions we take. Having the same negative thoughts every day result in a stressful life.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
When you wake up every morning, what is the first thought that runs through your mind?
Is it the same thought every day, or does it often vary?
Is it a negative thought or a positive thought?
You may be surprised by your answer and it might even be a great exercise to note down your morning thoughts in a journal to see if there is a pattern of thought that is happening.
Many of us often don't realise that apart from what we physically do each morning when we wake up as our 'Morning Routine', our thoughts become routine. This leads to a pattern of behaviour each day that we just automatically follow, without even thinking about it.
Why does this affect your behaviour?
Your routine thought pattern becomes your belief pattern and when you tap into your belief (whether negative or positive), it just becomes your behaviour.
Our beliefs are thoughts that you keep thinking. The more routined your thoughts are each day, the more this belief becomes a part of who you are and you attract every day that which you believe.
It becomes a cycle. A cycle of negative or positive, which depends on you.
If from reading this you are noticing that you do have routined thought patterns every morning and they are negative or focused on negative past events, then change is of the essence (unless you enjoy living a negative life - I know this sounds crazy, but there are many who do).
But changing outside circumstances for the better can only happen when you change your 'routined internal behaviour' each day, A good place to start is in the morning.
You cannot make any change in life, if the thought patterns, (which are your belief patterns) you carry remain the same.
Change is needed internally and externally.
So if you are eager to make some positive change in your life and feel stuck in certain or all of your areas in life, keep a check of the routines that you hold and the thought patterns you carry along with the routines that you take and ask yourself the question
'Does this feeling as a result of this thought enhance my life or does it keep me stuck and staying in lack?'
If the answer is not positive than an internal change needs to begin. If you are unsure as to what that is...meditation will lead you to the answer that is within.
I am always here also to reach out to if needed.
Remember your life is in your hands. You can create an awesome life for yourself, but the change has to begin internally first.
You can do it, just take one day at a time.