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Jun 9, 2021 in 

Are You a Serial Dater?

So I hear you ask...what do you mean a Serial Dater?

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So I hear you ask...what do you mean a Serial Dater?

This is basically someone who when their current relationship ends, to get over the breakup, they go straight back out and start looking for the next person. On a mission to find a rebound target.

Why do many do this?

Well another person can help you mend your broken heart quicker right?


All you are doing is repeating the pattern with the next person and the next and the next. You are never mending your broken heart yourself. You are relying on another to do it for you.

You can do it yourself!

You can mend your heart and get back to your happy strong self on your own, but in order to do this, you need to take a break.

You need to erase the energy you have picked up from the bad relationships. It is so important to release this energy. It's like the pandemic - energy is catching!

When you accumulate so much negative energy from one relationship, you are spreading this energy to another and their relationships and your future.

You are creating your own negative relationship pandemic!!!

Stop doing this.

It's so important to heal. To let go and to really get to know who you are and build yourself up again after what you have been through.

This will be good for you and the potential partner you meet that could be the right one for you.

Don't put pressure on yourself to keep looking out for the next person to fill that gap in your heart. Fill that gap in your heart with you!

If others are doing it, it doesn't mean that you have to follow. You are your priority not following others.

Healing takes time but it will be well worth it.

You don't want to be a J-Lo having one relationship after the other and still searching for the long-term soul companion and now going back to an ex.

Now I love J-Lo but she is a primary example of a serial dater trying to find Mr Right!

Dating is fun and it is important to get out there and not hide from finding love, but please take that time out to heal your heart before heading back out there. It's not fair for another to be your rebound and it's not fair on you to have the negative patterns repeat itself over and over again in your life.

You do deserve happiness.

So be patient and give yourself the time you need. It's not forever it's just a healthy way of recovering from a broken heart.

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