Aug 11, 2021 in Life Coaching

Your Past Relationships are Not Your Future

Keeping yourself stuck in that past pattern, you lose sight of how amazing your future can really be.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

2 Jun

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

2 Jun

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

31 May

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

31 May

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

2 Jun

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

2 Jun

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

2 Jun

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

30 May

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

30 May

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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When a relationship ends all too often this can keep you stuck in the past, as you re-live in your mind how things were and what went wrong. Even if things ended mutually, your headspace is often still there in the past and the longer you leave it there, the more it gets used to being there and the harder things become.

Time and space for your stands still and you are no longer functioning in the present, where things are going well, but you are functioning in the past, where you felt the pain or you saw the red flags but didn't take action straight away.

This then floods your head with regrets and then takes effect in your heart and when both heart and head are stuck in the past...boy have you lost that freedom of being fully in the present can give to your future.

You see, by keeping yourself stuck in that past pattern, you lose sight of how amazing your future can really be.

You lose sight of yourself and your capabilities of turning things around for the better and making things awesome.

Your past is not your future and your future will always have that darkness looming over it the more and more you stay stuck in that memory of a past relationship.

Don't do that to yourself. Don't shut off a bright future for a dark past...that's crazy.

You deserve more, you deserve better.

I agree when relationships break up it does suck, but what sucks the most, is when you lose sight of your goals and dreams and stop moving forward. That's what staying in the past does to you. It limits your future freedom to truly create the life you want and to be happy and fulfilled in all areas of your life.

Is it really worth it?