Oct 4, 2021 in Life Coaching

Your Life is a Story that Should be Written Properly and Edited Often

“Often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” — Helen Keller

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Make A Vow To Live Passionately

“Often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” — Helen Keller

I have a question for you. This is important because how you answer this question could change the balance of your life: When the time comes to leave this place, will you be able to look back on your past with fondness, gratitude, and satisfaction instead of regret and guilt? I invite you to take a deep breath and simply sit with this question for a moment…marinade in the essence of its profound implications; allow yourself to truly feel the reality of your last day on the planet, for there lies the most precious gift.

I know from experience because this is a practice I indulge in from time to time. I recall over two decades ago losing my father to complications resulting from type II diabetes. I remember the day of his burial and his coffin being lowered into the ground, as though it was only yesterday. There was a final ending to his time here that not only touched my family but echoed throughout my life in the months and years ahead. It was as though the universe grabbed me by the shoulders and said: “Wake up, son, your time is limited. Don’t waste another moment because you too shall return to dust one day.”

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Since then, I have made a vow to live passionately; to be of service to others, to enrich my life and guide others to awaken their potential. The journey has been difficult, stressful and yet daring. I’ve discovered more about myself in the subsequent years than I did leading up to my father’s passing. It was as though I was jolted that this beautiful journey called life must inevitably end, sometimes when we least expect it. Now, my second question for you: Can you relate?

Your Challenges Are Not Permanent

“Your life is your story. Write well. Edit often.” — Susan Statham

There’s a delightful parable told by the psychotherapist Anthony de Mello that captures the significance of embracing life completely: Before the visitor embarked upon discipleship, he wanted assurance from the Master: “Can you teach me the goal of human life?” “I cannot.” “Or at least its meaning?” “I cannot.”

“Can you indicate to me the nature of death and of life beyond the grave?” “I cannot.” The visitor walked away in scorn. Hearing of this, the disciples were dismayed that their Master had been shown up in a poor light. So, the Master said soothingly: “Of what use is it to comprehend life’s nature and life’s meaning if you have never tasted it? I’d rather you ate your pudding than speculated on it.”

Anthony de Mello’s fable reminds us: It is of little use to intellectualize life at the level of your thoughts. The question is: “Are you eating your dessert”—are you partaking in the sweetness of your life?” Life is to be lived fully, meaning you will experience pain and suffering, however as the adage goes: “This too shall pass.”

In such moments, the experience may be too much to bear. But as Winston Churchill once declared: “If you are going through hell, keep going.” He knew too well that when you’re in the grips of despair, to retreat is to deny yourself the capacity to overcome your pain and suffering. Sorrow and misery are not the narratives of your life story, but one chapter of it. There will be many chapters to come and you mustn’t consider your challenges as permanent.

Whilst you may have regrets, remember they are paragraphs contained within the story still being written. I urge you to be open to what tomorrow will bring, knowing the sum of your life is yet to unfold. What you are experiencing now is not the end of the world because there is so much more to your life’s narrative to unfold in the years ahead.

What Is Your Soul’s Narrative?

“About the only value the story of my life may have is to show that one can, even without any particular gifts, overcome obstacles that seem insurmountable if one is willing to face the fact that they must be overcome.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

The outcome of your choices is often right under your nose. Many people miss the signs because they are too busy moving from one thing to another to notice them. They are seldom present and engaged in the present moment to notice what is taking place beneath the surface of their lives. This is because they are concerned about how their lives look to others and don’t notice their interior life is slowly crumbling.

In many ways, they have forgotten how to come home to themselves. There will come a point when those you love will stand at the edge of your internment, looking down upon you as you are lowered into the ground. They will contemplate the same thoughts as I did that day at my father’s burial. “Is this it?” “Surely there’s more to life than this?” The most precious gift you can give to yourself is to treat each day as though it were your last. Hold nothing back. Live fully and completely, knowing when the time comes, you will be used up like a sponge wrung of water. May your life’s narrative be a compelling story lived truthfully.

Original article: https://www.tonyfahkry.com/your-life-is-a-story-that-should-be-written-properly-and-edited-often/

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