Sep 3, 2021 in Life Coaching
How to Embrace Your Imperfections and See Yourself Through the Eyes of Love
Despite what you think about yourself, you are perfect the way you are.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
See Yourself Through The Eyes Of Love
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” — Brené Brown
Despite what you think about yourself, you are perfect the way you are. You are born with perfect genes and a mind and body that defies what mankind is capable of engineering. Your role is to embrace the wholeness of your being and see yourself through the eyes of love. I’ve experienced a glimpse of what this feels like during meditation. It was pure bliss. The happiness and fulfillment you search for lies within you and seeks you as much as you seek it. How is it possible that an intelligence responsible for the sun rising each day, birds flying in unison and the beating of our heart, be anything less than perfect?
Many people fail to consider the miracle of these occurrences because they take them for granted. Yet, children appreciate life is a miracle. There’s beauty in the unknown for children, as evident in the passage: looking through a child’s eyes. For example, my young nephew delights in discovering insects in the garden. He never ceases to tire of it and describes them in great detail. He once asked his mother how the different insects know their role within Mother Nature. Who tells the bees to pollinate a flower without other insects competing for the task? Children recognise miracles because they are innocent enough to expect them.
To appreciate something greater means to recognise the same intelligence is at work in our own life. Our minds are not equipped to fully grasp the mystery which takes place in our lives, and yet we complain when it doesn’t work as planned. For example, recall the last time you thought of someone and bumped into them later that day? Such events are normal occurrences for me. Call it what you will: chance, luck, coincidence, providence, fate, or synchronicity; they all play a role in our lives if we are open to them.
Love is a universal mystery. How do you measure love? Sure, you might recite the chemical reactions that take place between two people in love, but where does love reside? Is it in the human heart or within the realm of consciousness? Why has science yet to prove it? The point worth making is: we are made in the image of greater intelligence and there can be no mistake of our worthiness and perfection.
Embrace Your Imperfections
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu
Do you embrace your imperfections or find fault in the physical aspects of your body? Self-acceptance means acknowledging who you are, not who you should be. People get confused with this term because they believe it means accepting your faults. It is not that at all. Self-acceptance means to accept yourself knowing you are constantly evolving. Yet, if you struggle with this idea, how will you accept yourself when you become more? Some people are never satisfied with themselves since there is always something to gain, we do or have. This creates emptiness within because you are like a checkout operator, processing transactions instead of delighting in what you have. How can you develop a better relationship with your imperfections? Are you willing to consider your flaws through a different lens? No one needs are perfect because perfection is a man-made idea that is unattainable. It makes sense to accept yourself since you are a work in progress and your job will never be done while you are alive.
Do you see the beauty in others or find faults in their appearance, intelligence, upbringing, or status? We should notice the goodness in others, rather than perceive their flaws. If someone is different from you, try looking for favourable qualities in that person. There’s always an opportunity to appreciate something in others, even if you need to look harder. Remember, what you recognise in others is apparent in you. The definition of the Hindu word Namaste translates to I bow to the divine in you that I see in myself. In other words, the perfection in others is also alive in you. By acknowledging it, you embrace your own perfection.
See the beauty in others and instead of judging them, consider seeing them with the thought: “That person is interesting.” Try it out and note how you feel at the end of the day. I’ve asked my coaching clients to practice this exercise and they report how peaceful they feel. Judging and criticising is hard work and requires mental effort. Moreover, our minds are accustomed to this way of thinking due to an inherent negativity bias. Notice others without judging them and you will undoubtedly feel better and more peaceful. You are perfect just the way you are and through your acceptance of it, you allow the same consciousness to develop through you. It is not conceited to regard yourself in high esteem. It is only arrogant when you think you are better than others. Therefore, embrace the wholeness of your being and allow your inner radiance to shine. And as you do, you will allow others to do the same.
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