Aug 12, 2021 in Life Coaching
We Grow into the Finest Version of Ourselves, When We Love without an Agenda
We grow into the finest version of ourselves when we’re given the opportunity to awaken our authentic selves.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Heal And Transform Your Childhood Wounds
“It is not good to try to cram our ideas down the throats of others. People grow in their own way, in their own time. Love is a feeling of well-being for other person.”—Ashok Gulla
We grow into the finest version of ourselves when we’re given the opportunity to awaken our authentic selves. Growth takes place by opening our hearts and minds to be tolerant of others without hidden motives. An agenda creates distance between us since it is not vested in love or cooperation. These qualities are the underpinnings of a harmonious relationship. If you want to help people grow into the finest version of themselves, nurture a spirit of compassion and empathy with them. We should greet others where they stand rather than expect them to align with us. In doing so, we narrow the divide that separates us and reaches out to them in a shared space of humility, support and understanding. Does this make sense? Can you see that meeting people where they are, helps to heal the separation between us?
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Growth takes place when the conditions are safe for a person to thrive and prosper. You need only look at young children who grow up in a caring and loving household. With proper parenting and role models, they develop healthy self-esteem and empathy for their fellow beings. However, if their upbringing is interrupted with hostility, violence, or emotional abuse, they are likely to adopt this behaviour later in life. What is sewn into the family unit will create the conditions for the child’s self-esteem to flourish in the ensuing years. I realise not everyone grows up in a household where these qualities are apparent. It is out of your control to choose your parents or caregivers, even their parenting style. However, you have the power to heal and transform your childhood wounds so you don’t carry them throughout life in order to appease your parents or caregivers.
See Them Through The Eyes Of Love
“Love moves without an agenda. It just moves because that is its nature to move.”—Adyashanti
Healing and transformation are difficult and may take years if not decades to explore. The journey into oneself is worth it because of who you become. As mentioned in earlier articles, I had a fractured relationship with my father growing up, owing to my strict disciplinary upbringing. When I reflect on it now, I see that my childhood experience forced me to take the journey into myself and discover my true essence. This journey became the catalyst for writing the book Awaken Your Authentic Self. As a child and young adult, I assumed the narrative my father upheld which resulted in developing low self-esteem. In the decades that followed, I realised my childhood experiences were an invitation to love myself and transform my childhood wounds. I learned more about myself over the last two decades that through hardship and challenges arise the most resilient, yet humble souls among us.
Can you relate to this? Have you experienced something in your past that forced you to confront your wounds? If so, what lessons did you gain and how did it change your life? We ought to respect our intimate relationships because the other person has chosen us amongst others to bear their soul and allow us into their heart. To break their heart is not only a transgression against them but also ourselves. Intimate relationships are a gateway into the deepest part of our psyche. We learn more about our true nature and awaken our authentic selves through these unions. We must nurture our partners, friends, family and co-workers in a sea of kindness and compassion. That is, greet them in a place of respect, trust and sacredness and see them through the eyes of love, not judgment, hate, or anger. When these disempowering states arise, it is an invitation to heal and transform them into the wholeness of our being. What we heal within ourselves, we heal within the relationship.
Disharmony And Disease Of Thinking
“You must love in such a way that the other person feels free.”—Thich Nhat Hanh
We mustn’t wait for others to improve ourselves first. We should tend to our personal growth at all times and create the ideal conditions for others to do the same. If nothing else changes within the relationship, at least we will have focussed on our personal growth. Growth is vital to life otherwise we remain stagnant, stuck and our self-esteem is impaired. This is when problems arise and people blame one another for their transgressions. If the individual traces the steps leading to the conflict, they will see how they each contributed to neglect their personal growth and that of their partners. Any form of war, whether it be war between nations or war within ourselves begins locally.
It begins at the level of the mind with disharmony and disease of thinking. It starts with separation instead of inner harmony. Therefore, let’s love those close to us with a spirit of openness, tenderness while being their agent of change. Let’s be the facilitator of their happiness and I assure you, what you do for another is returned tenfold. Don’t allow that to be your motivator, as you will expect things in return and be disappointed when it is not reciprocated. Do it out of the kindness of your heart. Do it because it pleases you to support their happiness and personal growth. Once we greet others in a sacred space of love, it becomes a vessel for a union built on trust, compassion and a connection between people whose lives are meant together.
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