Aug 5, 2021 in Life Coaching
Even During Difficult Times, You Still Have A Choice
Even throughout the darkest periods of our life, we still have choices.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
You Will Be Shown The Way
“I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word and thought throughout our lifetime.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Even throughout the darkest periods of our life, we still have choices. Whilst it may not seem that way, it is because we become trapped in our pain and don’t realise the way out. Knowing this, I’d like you to reflect on a recent difficulty in your life. Think about the lessons gained from the experience. Yes, it may be challenging to find a lesson, but I assure you it is there. For example, a young family friend who I’ve known for decades passed away from a lifelong illness some years ago. Although the loss was difficult, I reflect on the good times we shared rather than focus on the loss. I endured other setbacks around the same time, which left me deflated and uninspired, yet I kept looking for the greater lessons contained within those difficulties.
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Can you relate to this? Sometimes the forces of life conspire against us, yet our personal growth cannot be put on hold. Pain is a part of life, and to run away from it intensifies our suffering. Pain forces us to grow and helps us decide what is important. We ought to devote energy to what brings us joy and happiness, whilst finding meaning and value in those pursuits. It is said, not everything is meant to be in our lives and knowing what to let go of and hold on to a challenge. In the same way, we spend the first half of our life accumulating thoughts and ideas about the world and the second half letting go of these things. In view of this, are you devoting time and energy to things that make you happy or clutching to familiarity, hoping it will give you what you need? It requires examining where we are squandering our energy. It may not be easy picking apart our life, but it will be worthwhile.
Similarly, growth takes place through experience. We grow through difficult moments, not when we’re in our comfort zone. We may experience a powerful gust of wind that rattles our sails in order to experience resiliency. However, we always have a choice. We can stay mired in our difficulties or trust that respite lies around the corner. This is when we mustn’t lose faith. I know it’s difficult, particularly when hardship is knocking on our door. I’ve endured many challenges throughout my life and yelled out to the universe for help. Sometimes, I feel ignored and alone. Yet, underneath the silence, the universe invites me to go within to find the wisdom I need. I am being guided to find the answers contained within me. Through your challenges, you will be shown the way once you stop resisting and look for the lessons within the experience.
Stay Grounded In Your Present Moment Experience
“It is not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” — Roy Disney
How do you feel about this? Can you see when answers don’t arrive you are called to go to the source within you? It requires mining for answers in moments of silence. Often, there’s nothing we can do other than to endure the darkness and allow it to move through us. This is when we must embrace the present moment and be open to where life is leading us. We mustn’t fear the future but bring our attention back to the present moment where everything is contained right now. Difficult moments anchor us to the present moment. We needn’t fix anything because the future will take care of itself when we attend to the pockets of moments interwoven throughout our life. Being grounded in the now offers us the gift of serving our needs as they arise. When difficulties occur, there’s a tendency to focus on what is missing or what is going wrong.
Can you see this is one way of looking at your life? Are you realising this is not what you signed up for? I liken it to a train passing through a railway station, stopping momentarily to pick up passengers. Difficulties come and go from our life, and if we embrace the lessons, we gain a universal understanding for our highest good. Considering this, reflect on the difficulties I asked you about earlier. As a practice, write three lessons you gained from the experiences. You may also want to write what you didn’t like about the experiences and compare whether the lessons outweighed the challenges. I mentioned earlier how there’s always something to be grateful for. It’s difficult to see when we’re mired in our suffering. Yet, hindsight allows us to look back on our challenges with an open mind and a compassionate heart; knowing whatever we experienced endowed us with choices we never thought we had.
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