Aug 2, 2021 in Life Coaching
What is Your Great Big Why?
“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F. Kennedy
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F. Kennedy
Ask the Right Questions
Are you getting the results you deserve in relation to your health and fitness goals? If not, WHY?
Observing my work environment the other day, I noted members who I see infrequently. They either train immediately after a long weekend, after a holiday period, or perhaps after some time away from exercise.
Over the years I’ve noted the same type of person committed to their health and well-being in a sporadic manner. Their success hinges on how they think and feel toward exercise at any given time. There is no consistency to their approach. They’re easily derailed and side-tracked when life throws a curveball. I’m sure you know the type.
You’re reading this blog post since you desire to be fit and healthy – that’s why you visit this and other sites. No brainer. You’ll remember I wrote a previous blog post called The Value of Following Through I discussed the merits of what it takes to achieve success in relation to your goals.
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Have you ever examined closely why you want to achieve your goals? Is it because you’re unhappy with your current health or body image? Perhaps others have repeatedly told you that you must take action? Or maybe you want to feel accepted, appreciated, and noticed more by those close to you?
Whilst these may seem obvious questions, asking yourself WHY I do ‘x’ or want ‘y’ is an essential process in self-awareness. Your WHY can be the single most powerful expression of how you choose to realize your goals. It can thwart your success or lift you to new heights. Without a proper WHY you remain grounded; taxing on the runway looking for the runway to take off.
Let me tell you about my WHY. Having survived a life-threatening illness many years ago, I regard my health and well-being as the single most important aspect I have control over. There is absolutely no excuse, no lack of time, no lack of motivation, no one or nothing that stops me from tending to my health.
My WHY means spending a good portion of my earnings purchasing the finest food and produce. I choose organic foods where possible. I refuse to allow toxic foods into my body. I treat and respect my body as my best friend. I don’t take shortcuts or skimp on essential food items or practices.
I say no to things, people, events and situations which allow my body, mind, and spirit to be negatively influenced. My VALUE and relationship toward health are high. I practice what I preach. Others might place value on other aspects such as career, money, business, education, family, community, or others. Their decisions and actions influence how they make choices.
I came across a quote by A. J. Reb Materi recently immediately went into my journal. It read: “So many people spend their health gaining wealth, and then have to spend their wealth to regain their health.” I thought that was a powerful message asking us to examine what is important in our lives.
Self-Examination. Get Clear
So how do you determine what your WHY is? Your why must be powerfully charged, with an emotional base. My, why brings me to tears when I think about it. My why has become my purpose and my wish to help others achieve a similar level of health. If your why is not emotionally charged, you’ll easily become derailed when life doesn’t go as planned. Excuses become the main course, as one forms invalid conclusions about achieving their goal.
Take some time to examine your why. Ponder and reflect on why your call to action is important to YOU. Not anyone else. Ask yourself; why do I want to get fit, healthy, lose weight, cease smoking, eat less junk food, become a more conscious eater, etc? Keep asking WHY? You’ll notice children are incredibly astute at this. They’ll often hound you with a series of questions, leaving you mentally exhausted.
Use a similar model, without interrogating yourself. Instead, your aim is to become the seeker of the truth. During this process, you might come up against emotions you may have neglected over the years. If so, continue working through, being kind and gentle with what comes up.
Some reasons for your WHY might include; acceptance, being loved & respected, missing out on something in the past, fear, anger, resentment, or a number of other related emotions. The emotion you wish to invite forth should be a positive one, not negative. Your why should NOT be something you were lacking. Resist moving forward by giving it attention. Such why’s can thwart your success since ego is the culprit lurking in the shadow. Its aim is to get what it needs at all costs.
Sit with it for a while when undertaking the process. If you’re currently not achieving the results you wish, allow yourself some time to explore your true self via self-examination. This can be a powerful process, often bringing up new realizations and emotions to the surface.
You might find your WHY was formed around escaping pain as opposed to moving toward pleasure. This may have profound success on how you choose to move forward with your goals. Sometimes in life, you’re on a track moving you in a direction that may be for your greatest good. Suddenly, without cause, everything is thrown into turmoil. All that you knew to be absolute, safe, and right is crushed.
Such moments are often blessings in disguise, showing your track served its purpose in allowing you to arrive at this point of your journey. It’s time now to board a new journey on different tracks which will bring you to the place you were meant to be. So take heart, rest assured. You are exactly where you need to be right now.
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