Jul 26, 2021 in Life Coaching
How You Would Feel if You Got What You Wanted?
How would your life change if you got what you wanted?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
How would your life change if you got what you wanted? I’m referring to achieving your goals or fulfilling your dreams. Have you given it any thought? Have you entertained the idea of achieving everything you desire?
Focus On What You Want
“Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.” — Paulo Coelho
We habitually focus on what we don’t want, to the degree it manifests as our reality. Unfortunately, we don’t devote enough attention to our dreams and highest aspirations because we believe we are unworthy or unable to achieve our goals. Psychologists say this is wired into our early nurturing, where our needs are not met via our parents or caregivers. It is why many people don’t go after what they want because of the obstacles that stand in their way.
Does this describe you? Is there a small voice within you that laments how difficult it is to achieve your goals? I’m inviting you now to notice these thoughts when you reach for something outside your comfort zone. Therefore, we ought to nurture our innermost needs; our deepest wants and desires. I’m not suggesting this practice alone will mean they will materialize. Nevertheless, we’ve got to give ourselves a chance to cultivate our needs and create a space for them, especially if they are important to us.
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Is this something you do often? Perhaps through visualizations or journaling? If not, is it a practice you’re willing to undertake? Obviously, your desires will differ from others. For example, you might want to be in an intimate relationship or get ahead in your career, perhaps improve your health or finances. Whatever it is, we must connect with our deepest intentions and understand them better so we can give them life. In doing so, we discover important aspects about ourselves and whether our desires are worth pursuing. Otherwise, we might spend months or years chasing after lofty goals that don’t bring us the fulfillment we deserve.
What Is Your Compelling Reason To Achieve Your Goals?
“Remember, the WHY is a filter. When you start with WHY, it attracts people who believe what you believe and repels people who don’t.” — Simon Sinek
So, do you think your life change, if you achieved all your goals? Who would you become? How would you act? Who would you be surrounded by? Try to get a sense of this future, even if it is a glimpse. If you can visualize it, your subconscious mind will help you achieve it. Here’s the caveat: your goal must be tied to powerful emotions and a compelling reason to achieve the goal. You must have a convincing WHY, imbued with powerful emotions since they will help you achieve your desires.
Are you content with this so far? I realize I’m asking a lot of questions, but it is purposeful to help you get clear on what you want. I want you to know that you can achieve anything you desire, as long as it is tied to a powerful reason. We must invoke energizing emotions of love, gratitude, enthusiasm, and passion to bring to life our inner visions. I assure you, spending time alone with your thoughts, whether through journaling or quiet reflection, will save you years of hard work and disappointment. I’ve witnessed this in hundreds of coaching clients who pursued goals they believed would make them happy, only to realize it did not fulfill them. It is why I coach clients to help them understand their underlying reasons for their goals and create a roadmap so they achieve them.
Visualize Success To Achieve Your Goals
“All successful men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” — Brian Tracy
The key to achieving our goals lies in commitment and perseverance, but there are other factors we must take into consideration. For example, we must work intelligently and overcome setbacks and disappointments that emerge along the way. This is where we learn about ourselves and the importance of our goals. We learn about making sacrifices to achieve our goals. Second, we must visualize achieving our goals and work diligently to bring our vision to life. Visualizing a successful life involves planting the seed within our subconscious mind and nurturing it regularly. I liken it to the architectural drawings of a new house to be built. The more we visit the image in our mind, the better the instructions we give to our subconscious mind.
Everything you desire lies on the other side of your fears and requires knowing what you are prepared to do to achieve your goals. Therefore, your powerful WHY (compelling reason) will help you overcome obstacles and challenges and motivate you to achieve them. The level at which you are willing to achieve your desires is based on your ability to overcome short-term setbacks for long-term success. Hence, why a visualization is a powerful tool because it is a mind map of your intended future.
Knowing this, I invite you to sit with your journal or phone and answer the questions in the opening paragraph with care and thoughtfulness. In fact, I encourage you to answer all the questions throughout the article. I want you to get a powerful sense of your desires and why you want to bring them to life. It is my experience that spending time on this exercise can save you time and disappointment. Getting what we want in life can be satisfying if our goals are aligned with our highest vision. We must let go of competing beliefs and pursue our goals for what they bring to our lives and the lives of others. After all, when our goals are for the greatest good of all, they are imbued with greater intent and will come to life as long as we remain committed to achieving them.
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