Jul 15, 2021 in Life Coaching
Should You Act Now or Wait Until the Situation Improves?
Invariably it begins with a journey...
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
“The only use of an obstacle is to be overcome. All that an obstacle does with brave men is, not to frighten them, but to challenge them.” – Woodrow Wilson
Invariably It Begins With A Journey
I was out running this morning in the parkland near home. I live close to a creek that makes its way into our state’s major river bed. The creek is long and winding, as it courses through various inner suburbs. There is a designated running track that traverses the creek at the level of the water. You're almost running along the rock bed as the stream passes close to your feet.
I usually run this track on Monday morning as it allows me to commune with nature – and the aspect of exercising outdoor which I appreciate. It’s been humid here over the last few days with intermittent rain and today was no exception. If you’ve paid attention to international news, you’ll no doubt hear about the El Nina weather patterns wreaking havoc on the eastern border of Australia in Queensland. The weather has brought torrential floods, with many people regretfully losing their homes.
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As I was running, it started raining. I could recall mum’s words echoing in my mind as I continued running along the path by the water. Growing up as a kid with my two sisters, she developed an ambivalent relationship with rain. She would always cry out to ‘get out of the rain’, ‘don’t get caught in the rain.’ I believe her reasoning was based on getting wet and becoming getting sick as a consequence. Her words came flooding back (if you’ll pardon the pun) this time as I was running.
The Experience Always Precedes The Lesson
Challenging what you’ve accepted all your life is an interesting exercise in personal growth. Assuredly, this isn’t the first time I’ve been caught in the rain. However, It’s the first time I saw an entirely new perspective on rain and the accompanying metaphor for navigating through life. Often when you’re moving forward, life throws a set of circumstances that may obscure or challenge your journey. Rain is akin to that example. How you choose to navigate through those situations determines the comfort of your path and the inner growth you experience.
Rain may be regarded as a change in external situations which may obscure your path ahead. Do you stop and wait for the rain to pass? Do you continue moving forward through the rain, pushing through the uncomfortable state of being wet, cold and miserable? What does one gain by pushing through challenging times? Hopefully, inner growth to navigate circumstances that are beyond one’s control.
In your quest to become whatever you wish to be; a poet, a dancer, an artist, actor, comedian – you’ll undoubtedly be faced with situations that will challenge and rock the foundations of your being. I may have mentioned previously in a lifetime long ago, I worked in the fashion industry, having studied design at university (both my parents were involved in the trade). I recall the first time I produced a collection that was critiqued by my superiors. I completely fell apart as they dissected my work, criticising every aspect of my creation.
At the time I saw it as an attack on my character. In hindsight, I needed to have that experience in order to move forward and not be so invested in what other people thought of me. To be fair, they were reviewing my work and not judging me (which was the meaning I assigned to it at the time) – there’s a rather large distinction which I failed to acknowledge at the time. Those years paved the way for me to be more creative and not be so invested in what others thought of me – since it really didn’t matter.
Whatever you’re facing as a challenge in your life, ask yourself this question – will my life become better if I choose to continue moving forward through it or stop and wait it out? The rain failing has a beautiful message if we allow ourselves to tune into it. Choose one area of your life which you believe is causing you concern. How might another person look at the same scenario? What might their advice be on the topic? When you’re living your life, you become the Jim Carrey character from The Truman Show. You’re caught up in the drama and the day-to-day saga of it, rarely stopping to seeing the big picture – why am I here? What have I been sent to do, achieve or become?
Is my life really about my friends, Facebook, Twitter, drinking, watching TV, eating, sleeping, work, school, relationships, etc? And then doing it all again the following day. How do I assign meaning and purpose to my life? Is it through my job, my family and friends? The people who mean something to me?
Whatever stage in life you’re at right now – begin asking empowering questions which move you closer to your imagined reality. Start with a question, since it has the power to ignite your mind to search for answers. J.K. Rowling in an interview with Oprah asked herself ‘how can I get out of poverty, put food on the table and live my bliss of writing books?’ Her subconscious mind never gave up searching for the how’s, until it became greater than her need to merely exist.
Make a decision to move THROUGH your perceived pain. You may choose to WAIT it out until life brings something more desirable – whether it’s love, a job offer, a car, more money, your ideal weight. You get to choose – either way, you are always right.
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