Jun 14, 2021 in Life Coaching
Do You Consider Yourself To Be Successful?
Where do you currently stand in relation to success? Is it an elusive dream which seems unattainable?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill
Where do you currently stand in relation to success? Is it an elusive dream which seems unattainable? Are you the embodiment of success? There are people who attract success like a magnet and others who couldn’t find success if it was sitting on their front door.
In our quest to learn more about success, it’s essential that we define the term ‘success.’ One man’s success may be another man’s failure. People often compare their success to others. John lives in a beautiful home with an expensive car, holidays four times a year and has a gorgeous wife and family. What they fail to see are the underlying, hidden attributes that make up John’s life. It’s easy to look at another man’s riches as better than yours, without appreciating the other hidden factors.
Jim Rohn, an American entrepreneur, author and speaker suggest we should strive for ‘excellence,’ not success. If one aims for success, it becomes elusive much like trying to find happiness. If you focus on excellence, success is guaranteed since it’s the by-product of great work and deeds.
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Reflect on how you define success? Make a list of how success looks to you. What does it mean to be successful? Acquiring material possessions? Sustaining fulfilling relationships, connection to a universal source? Or any number of the above points? How will you know when you’re successful?
My definition of success has changed immeasurably over the years. If I was asked to define success during my twenties, it meant being rich and wealthy, working twenty days a year and travelling the world.
Success these days embodies a great deal more. The following are features I consider worthy of success. They are in no particular order:
Impacting humanity through my work, helping others make their dreams a reality
Being healthy in mind body and spirit.
Spiritually aligned to a higher source
Enjoy lasting and fulfilling relationships with family, friends and loved ones.
Being financially free to choose my reality i.e. travel, work and buy things I want.
Give back to humanity through charitable and/or volunteer work
I know when I’m successful in these areas, as I’ve fulfilled my purpose and destiny. Every day is a blessing, not a chore. Getting up in the morning becomes a joy, not a curse. I’m at peace with myself and my surroundings.
I realised over the years that success does not follow a straight line. There are many detours and roads which lead to success. The detours and dead ends are the lessons learned in order to become successful. They shape and mould you into the person you become.
A Comparative View
I was having a conversation with my business partner about this topic recently. We were discussing the idea of what it takes to make a million dollars. What mindset is required to become healthy and make a million dollars was also an appealing concept. We agreed in order to make a million dollars, we’d need to step out of our comfort zones and challenge our internal beliefs and attitudes toward money, success and wealth. Where we currently stood in terms of those beliefs remained off the mark.
We explored the notion of health as a comparison view. We observed how easy and effortless it was for health professionals to continually maintain a healthy body and mind. We are regularly inundated by accounts from clients and the public, how challenging it is to lose weight and maintain one's health.
We find it simple, often struggling to identify with those experiencing the opposite. I suggested to my business partner that we need to adopt the same thinking in relation to our health, toward making money. We affirmed there are people who correctly apply the same beliefs to making money as we do toward health.
All we need to do is adopt the same belief, right? Wrong! Experience shapes your beliefs and thoughts. What we’ve yet to achieve is the same experience and internal growth as those making a million dollars. That was the difference. Experience and internal growth were the two measurable qualities required for success.
Therefore success is a journey, not a destination. Read that again. “Success is a journey, not a destination.” It’s who you become along the way that determines your success. Those who win the lottery are far worse off a year after their win. Albeit, winning the lottery is not a bad problem to have. People winning it had no experience managing that level of wealth. That’s why it slips out of their hands. They have not created an internal shift around the concept of wealth.
Therefore, the key to success lies not in the destination, as much in the person you become. It’s the endless failures, disappointments, highs and lows that mould you into a person worthy of success.
I’ve experienced moments of wanting to give up during my journey. I wondered why I was striving on very little income, while my friends were making a great deal more. They were enjoying success, while I was barely making ends meet. Such moments are defining stages in one’s life. They serve to show how willing you are to turn your dream into reality.
I’ve grown immensely during those moments, having learned that I desire my goal more than anything. I’m willing to do whatever it takes to achieve it. If that means reading more books than the next person, working later at night to finish a project, or seeking out resources that will accelerate my success; I’m willing to make those sacrifices.
Examine your goal/s. What are you willing to do or be in order to achieve them? If life kept showing you otherwise, are you prepared to push through to make it happen regardless? Your answer/s will demonstrate a lot about the person you are and what internal changes you need to make in order to realise them.
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