May 27, 2021 in Life Coaching
How To Find Courage Through Your Adversity
“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” – Henry Ford
There comes a point in our life when we experience challenging circumstances, contrast by the inability to find our way back home again. It might be an agonising life lesson such as the death of a loved one or the dissolution of a romantic relationship. Whatever the situation, it feels too close to home and strikes at the very essence of our human nature. Such experiences test our resolve to withstand the torrents of life.
I wish to remind you that you have the power to transcend any experience life presents you with. This is not intended as a passing sentiment to motivate you. Rather, I urge you to embody this understanding at the deepest level.
Reflect on a previous time when you summoned the courage to make it through such an event or circumstance. I’m certain you may have felt debilitated by the experience at the time – as though your world had collapsed to pieces?
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With some degree of patience and willingness, you called upon inner resources to move through the adversity. In fact, each step we take towards suffering is an invitation to move through the pain. There are those who remain frozen by the sorrow and incapacitated by the event. They’re unable to navigate their way through the turmoil to reclaim inner peace. Your refusal to move through the experience impedes the flow of life revealing itself through you.
Below are some points to help you traverse the torrents of life. Remember, your power lies dormant within you, ready to be called upon at your time of need. You have survived previous life events and will continue to do so as long as you allow the experience to pass through you. You may not know what that means now, yet in time all will be made clear to you. Do not wage an inner war against life, as doing so will create more suffering. It is the resistance to what is that is the root of one’s suffering.
Human Suffering Is Inevitable.
The degree to which you endure suffering may be highlighted by your perception of it. We all suffer at some level whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. Every person has their cross to bear. In his book “What I Talk About When I Talk About Running,” author Haruki Murakami reminds us that “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” He is of course referring to how we internalise suffering. Reframe your view on what it means to suffer by seeing it as an opportunity to transcend your problems. Don’t ask for an easier life – ask that you be given the tools and resources to handle what life offers.
What Is The Experience Calling You To Become?
Your soul’s agenda differs from your ego’s agenda. Neale Donald Walsch suggests that we live life from the soul’s agenda and not the ego’s. He invites us to expand our perspective of life as seen through our higher self. Your soul is not concerned with what you do for a living, where you live, what your credit rating is nor what your accumulated net worth is.
Your soul’s agenda is measured in the personal growth you attain. What life lessons and experiences have been the theme of your life? What is life inviting you to witness? Is it financial hardship, gender equality, health matters, or otherwise? Your life struggles maybe your soul’s plan to help you realise your inner power. When viewed from this perspective, there are no accidents and everything that takes place has been perfectly co-created and orchestrated by a greater universal intelligence for your personal evolution.
Retreat For A While If You Must
When you’ve experienced instability it is natural to retreat, in order to summon the courage to bounce back with renewed enthusiasm. What matters most is how you bounce back. Refuse to remain grounded and defeated by your experience. Many people refuse to accept their ordeal, choosing to feel victimised as though the event should not have happened to them – why not you? Retreating temporarily in order to find your way back may be the best plan. Retreating is not the same as being defeated – staying down is being defeated.
Time Heals All Wounds.
Suspend your need to judge the experience as good or bad. Trying to makes sense of the event seems to bring a sense of inner peace. The truth is that oftentimes there is no explanation of why things happen the way they do. I recall Jim Rohn, an American motivational speaker, and author said something to the effect of “…I don’t have all the answers. Life is a mystery. If you think you can design and orchestrate a better universe, go right ahead – be my guest.” Ultimately there is a great deal that takes place behind the scenes to which our logical mind does not have the answer. Trying to fill in the blanks is a recipe fuelled with the wrong intentions.
It is natural to seek answers and draw meaning from the death of a loved one or the dissolution of a marriage. In time once the veil is lifted you may view the experience as a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Trust that when the pain has subsided, the lesson awaits you.
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