Nov 16, 2021 in Life Coaching

Here Come the Holidays!

Over time, aging loved ones may struggle out of view of their adult children. Holidays are a great time to be observant.

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Ava Garcia

16 Nov

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

16 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

16 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

16 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

16 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

16 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

16 Nov

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

16 Nov

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Who doesn't LOVE Thanksgiving? Granted, there are those who are sad this time of year, missing those they've lost or who live far away. My heart goes out to them.

Here in the northeast, it can get mighty cold, and the weather may be another reason for being turned off by this holiday. And of course, travel becomes a major headache, with so many of us taking to the road and the skies to visit distant loved ones.

But for those of us who are blessed with friends and family, and get to spend time catching up, eating too much and spending quality time, Thanksgiving is such a gift. And you've got to be impressed by a holiday that's called what it is: an occasion to give thanks for all we have.

Thanksgiving is also a time to stop, think and observe. We have an opportunity to see and interact with aging family members. When we stay in touch by phone or messaging, it's not the same as being with those people. Not seeing facial expressions, body language, movements and reactions, we can miss a lot. Reconnecting in person gives us a chance to see how our loved ones are REALLY doing.

While it can be unpleasant to contemplate, as we age, things change. And if we aren't paying attention, we can miss important clues as to what's going on with our family members. By observing and noting changes, we have a chance to intervene and help before things get out of hand.

What kinds of things? Well, cognitive changes are important to note: asking the same question repeatedly, telling the same story more than once, misplacing items. Are they living with a lot of clutter? Are they opening their mail? Are items in the refrigerator old or spoiled?

And even if everything really IS OK, that doesn't mean you're off the hook, because there are conversations best conducted while everyone is still in good health. Want to know WHAT to ask? We can get you started with a free EBook:8 Things You Must Discuss With Your Family. You can request yours here.

We wish you a Thanksgiving filled with gratitude, and we're grateful you stopped by!