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Oct 27, 2021 in 

Taking responsibility for our actions

Talks about how everyone needs to start taking responsibility for our actions and how we need to hold our kids responsible

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Humans spend a lot of time trying to avoid taking responsibility for our actions, our words, and our decisions. These three obligations are what many adults wish would vanish. I propose we examine these oft avoided responsibilities we all have experienced in our lives, and find different ways of dealing with them by grasping them to ourselves as friends instead of as enemies it is human nature to want to blame someone else when we become unhappy or meet with difficulties in our lives.What is the truth behind the camouflage we throw up to make ourselves seem better in our own and other people’s eyes? Psychologists have studied this phenomenon of humanity, and have discovered at least one reason why we would rather blame something or anyone else but ourselves for our actions.

The phenomena I am speaking of is blaming someone or something else for our actions, has been determined to be a defense mechanism. When you displace blame onto something or someone else, you are protecting your sense of who you are, and avoiding facing head-on your own flaws and failings.

It is only when we are totally honest with ourselves, that we can beat this seemingly insidious behavior

 it is better for your self-esteem and ego to admit your wrongs, and to accept the consequences for your actions. Pushing off onto someone else your responsibility weakens you, and lays you open for ridicule.

 

Taking Responsibility for Our Words

There are two ways a person can harm themselves and others with their words, by telling a lie and by using words as a weapon.

Everyone lies. That is a fact of life that many would love to deny. However, when we lie to escape the consequences of our actions, we are doing great harm to ourselves and others

  • One of the reasons lies are so harmful, is that not only have we harmed our reputations when and if we are found out, but our self-esteem loses power. We tend to look at ourselves even more negatively than others, and to be caught in a lie shakes our self-concept to the core. Not only this, but the cascading effect of one lie to cover another is exhausting.

It is much simpler and much better for our self-image to own up to a fabrication we have told. Taking responsibility for what we have said leads to greater power within and without ourselves.

The way to end this harmful behavior is to listen to what you are saying, and to weigh your words more carefully. Are you saying what you are to make an important and vital point, or are you trying to hurt someone’s feelings and tear them down? With practice, a person can end this horrendous blame game with words.

Taking Responsibility for Our Decisions

Allowing ourselves to take responsibility for our decisions without carrying a load of regret, takes a lot of self-understanding and examination. While there is no need to squander our time feeling ashamed or lost because we didn’t turn right when we turned left,

When you own your decisions, you make yourself very powerful both in mind and spirit. Saying to yourself that you did something wrong, without allowing yourself to indulge in self-pity, is a tremendous mark of strength. 

Taking responsibility for every aspect of our lives is indeed a difficult concept to grasp, but the rewards of doing so are enormous. One will find that not only do we hold ourselves in higher regard, but that other people around us will think of us as a stable and conscientious person. By taking responsibility for our actions, words and decisions, our sense of owning our lives will increase and we will feel empowered 

If you were responsible in some way, be honest about that and take responsibility for your actions.

It's all very well demonstrating but you have to take responsibility for your actions

 Teaching Children to Take Responsibility for Their Actions

 We got to start make our kids start taking responsibility for their own actions,it may be time to teach them about accountability. 

It’s natural for us to want to shift the blame onto others to avoid negative consequences. However, at some point we have to learn this behavior won’t get us anywhere we want to go

The earlier we  teach our child to stop the cycle of excuses and blame shifting, the easier it will be for them to take responsibility for their own actions when it really matters.

Are you tired of your child’s excuses? If they never seem to take responsibility for their own actions, it may be time to teach them about accountability. 

It’s natural for us to want to shift the blame onto others to avoid negative consequences. However, at some point we have to learn this behavior won’t get us anywhere we want to go. 

The earlier you teach your child to stop the cycle of excuses and blame shifting, the easier it will be for them to take responsibility for their own actions when it really matters.

Cultivating a Culture of Accountability

The first step in teaching your child to take responsibility is to cultivate a culture of accountability within the home. This means every member of the family is held accountable to a clear set of rules and expectations. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and reactions, even in stressful situations.

Only by making accountability an integral part of the way your family interacts with one another can your children truly learn to take responsibility for their actions. If they see a sibling or even a parent get away with bad behavior by shifting the blame, it’s easy for them to believe such a loophole exists for them as well.

Creating a culture of accountability for your family won’t happen overnight. It takes time for everyone to learn there are real repercussions for their actions. Be patient and understand you’re building a framework for the future that will not only cut down on the number of excuses you have to hear on the daily, but will also help your children grow into responsible adults.

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