Jul 11, 2021 in Life Coaching
Wants v Needs
Wants v needs Question for you. Do you need what you want, and do you want what you need? I think it is probably sa
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Wants v needs
Question for you.
Do you need what you want, and do you want what you need?
I think it is probably safe to say that we all want to be happy, safe, and well and we also need to be happy safe and well.
We might want a big house, a fast car, or several foreign holidays a year, and there is nothing wrong with that if you can afford it, but is it really what you need? In fact, is it really what you want, or do you feel this is what you should want because you can afford it?
Does this put pressure on you at work or mean that you must keep a job that you really don’t want because it doesn’t make you happy?
If you’re staying at home because of the lockdown, this might be something that have thought about. Could you live on a lower income if you took a job that paid less? What would be the consequences? This may be a question that you have asked yourself before but never took it seriously, most likely due to fear of change or fear of failure.
I don’t believe in failure anymore. I used to believe in it and the list of things that I thought I had failed at is a very long one. Now I look back on that list and see that I didn’t fail. Things may not have worked out the way I thought or hoped they would but that doesn’t mean I failed. Some things I felt were failures because they didn’t gain approval from the people who mattered to me. In those cases, I definitely did not fail. In other cases, it was a learning experience.
Change can be a good thing. Forced change can make you evaluate your life. It can force you into doing things that you may have been afraid to do in the past or stop doing things you may have done in the past.
I have had everything, and I have lost everything. It was only when I lost everything that I realised I didn’t actually need most of what I had lost especially when it came to the material things in life. I have to say that even though I would like certain things (not all material), I have come to learn that I don’t need these things and I am much happier, and my life is far more fulfilling without them.
When it comes to wanting what you need and example is you may not want to go to the dentist but you may need to go to the dentist.
A more complex example is you may want to stay in a destructive relationship, but is that what you need? Another example is wanting to stay in a job that puts a huge amount of stress on you affecting health or relationships, but is this what you need?
Think about it. Do you need what you want, and do you want what you need?