Aug 27, 2021 in Career Coaching
Expert is made by trial and error.
How do you see mistakes?Are you afraid of making them? When it comes to change your career, do you feel it is a failure?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
I wanted to talk about this, as I receive messages from people and meet my clients. It looks like a career change is a failure.
It seems that if we don’t know what we want to do, or we don’t have everything figure out by specific age, then we are a failure.
For me failing, is not playing the game in life all in. That is failing big time.
People who do not risk, change, try new things, then they never grow. If you want, play it safe always. Then you will be missing out on growing and learning.
Another thing is if we do not try different things, how we can know what we like or what we don’t? Think about it. Or you want to be like when we were kids, and we said we don’t like certain foods, but the truth is we never try it.
I don’t know why we are so scared to make mistakes. Firstly, who says it is a mistake? Secondly, there won’t be any growth without those “mistakes” that I like to call redirections or lessons. Getting out of comfort zones is essential to growth and seeing things from a different perspective.
Add to myWE:
The problem that I found most commonly, with me, my clients, and all the people I know. It is that we do not know ourselves, and that creates a lot of insecurities. Example for you to understand:
“I love going on trips to the USA and going to other places like Asia, Japan, and Australia when I speak. I got nervous, and I love to travel, and I am used to it. Why? Because I know the terrain, which food I will find, some language barriers, cultural issues. I am super confident in the USA because I know what I can discover, my problems, and how to sort them out. I am in my comfort zone.”
With ourselves happens the same. If we do not know ourselves, then less confident, we are. We do not know how to react when rejected in the interview (or we know too well and do not want to face it). We do not know how to write a CV to represent our achievements (probably we think we do not have any).
It is essential to know ourselves because then we will be to know the right moment then we need to adjust our sails and change the route, and we will do it bravely. Not without fear, because this is impossible, but bravely, will the security we have all the tools we need to face this change and embrace this discomfort successfully.
The truth is that Career Happiness is a journey, not a destination. If you leave life as you are supposed to be, you will change through years; what you wanted at 18 won’t be the same as what you wanted at 25, either 35 or 45. And this is okay!
Experience is one of the best teachers; that’s why I believe in trial and error because no one has the infallible formula on what will work for me.
So as I grow, and I try different things, much more, if I do not know what I want to do, and I have no idea yet, of my purpose, or which job will fulfil me and make me happy. Knowing that can change anytime again, and nothing happens, takes off the pressure.
The benefits of changing without fear, and risk-taking, are huge for personal growth. And as well to your career, you will extract a lot of achievements, and you will prove by experience that you are resilient and flexible, and these are two things that most companies look out for when hiring.
” When I quit my corporate job, to be a full-time coach and self-employed. I’ve been fed up with that job for more than a year; I planned my whole way out. The week after my last day, my boss offered me a promotion. And the same day, I found myself sitting in my room, thinking about it. I didn’t want to call my partner, or anyone, because other opinions confuse us most of the time, and in the end, it is our life, and we need to make those decisions for ourselves. I couldn’t believe what was happening to me. I was a week away to reach my freedom, and I was hesitating. How was this possible? Because of the comfort zone and the fear of being in the unknown territory of being a full-time coach”.
So, I coached myself and came up with those questions that help me, and today I want to share with you to help you. If you are in a similar situation, or if you are scared of trial and error. And you feel you are a failure because you want to change your career.
- Where this decision is coming from? – Normally, it will be the reply of a feeling. The case I put you above was from fear.
- What is the worst that can happen? – Put the biggest disasters you imagine. And then assess the % of probability that would happen.
- What are the benefits of doing it? – What positive things going one way or the other will bring you.
- This decision gets me closer to my goal? (big picture) – When you see your ultimate goal, your big picture, which one gets you closer.
If you feel that you are in the wrong career, it is time to move. And you are struggling to make the decision of making that change.
If you are committed to making this career change, but it looks like you are not getting anywhere by yourself, and you realise you feel insecure and needs someone to help you get through it. So let’s have a free vibe call! I got you!
Life is happening right now, and time is the only thing we will never get back, to lose it in a job where we spent most of our time that we hate. Let’s design your Heart-led Career Change together right now!