Apr 20, 2020 in Counseling
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
As humans, we are complex beings full of nuance. Our past experiences shape us, often intertwining into our present lives to modify the way that we react to new circumstances or inform our decision-making. But what happens when our past relationships have been toxic or when our previous experiences have resulted in long-standing trauma?
Often, negative experiences like these can lead to difficult interactions down the line, but this isn’t something to blame yourself for. While global statistics have been difficult to solidify, North America tends to have higher rates of post-traumatic stress disorder than other countries. In North America, for instance, somewhere between 6.1 and 9.2 percent of people have PTSD, while rates in Australia and other countries are as low as 1 percent.
Still, the most important takeaway is that you’re not alone if past trauma is affecting your current relationship!
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How to know when your past Is in the present.
Are you dating someone with a troubled past, or do you think that your own past relationships may be having a negative effect on your current relationship?
Below are a few relationship issues to look out for, each of which (especially when present together) could be suggestive of a past relationship wreaking havoc on a new relationship.
Being petty to your partner could be a sign of inappropriately applied defense mechanisms.
Excess jealousy or paranoia could result from fear due to past, repeated toxicity.
Frequent communication failures or lack of understanding surrounding partner conflicts might both be indicative of unresolved past harm.
Saying goodbye to the past.
So, when it comes to past relationships affecting current ones, what can we do?
If you ask yourself how to forget past relationships, it may not be possible. However, working with an Online Relationship Counselor can lead you in the right direction. While a Counselor may not be able to help you entirely forget your past unhealthy relationships, they will help you to manage your emotions appropriately.
They can also work with you to identify signs that wounds from past experiences continue to fester, then lead you in a direction to close those wounds and learn to love healthily again.
Whether you prefer to work one-on-one with a Counselor or if you and your Counselor decide that it could be beneficial to work with your significant other, too, online relationship counseling provides an incredible amount of flexibility that’s perfect for, however (and whenever) you want to meet.
Take a dive.
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