Mar 6, 2020 in Counseling

Should you live together before marriage?

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

16 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

16 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

16 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

16 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

16 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

16 Nov

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

16 Nov

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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While marriage has traditionally been associated with moving in together and sharing a home with your spouse post-wedding, more and more couples are making the decision to live together before they get married. This premarital cohabitation has become increasingly common in the U.S., where cohabitation has increased at the same time as marriage rates have decreased; in other countries throughout Europe, however, marriage remains a more stable option than premarital cohabitation.

The benefits of living together before marriage.

Now for what we know you’ve been waiting for—all the reasons to celebrate and say, “Yes! We live together!”

Living together before marriage can be advantageous because:

You will have more opportunities to learn intimate details about your partner before marrying them.

You’ll learn to live together in a way that is healthy and productive by sharing household chores and moments of domesticity.

You will gain insight into whether or not you and your partner could be compatible when living together in the long term.

You can save money by splitting utility bills and rent.

At the very least, living with your partner before getting married means that you can glimpse a bit of marriage before you commit!

Re-thinking cohabitation.

For some couples, on the other hand, moving in together may not always be the right choice. Why?

It’s possible that living together will make you feel obligated to get married. In some countries or families, living together prior to marriage may be frowned upon.

Living with your partner does not mean benefits such as health insurance or social security will transfer to them, unlike when you are married.

Cohabitants cannot file taxes jointly, while one of the benefits of marriage is that spouses can save money by filing their taxes together.

Choosing to live together before a strong relationship has formed may result in disagreements or reveal incompatibilities you don’t yet have the ability to work through together.

Thinking it through.

Sometimes, it’s impossible to come up with the answer on your own. Perhaps you and your partner have differing views, or maybe both of you are stuck. When you’re not sure how to proceed, we can’t overstate the importance of getting a third-party opinion from a professional Online Counselor or Life Coach.

These Experts have had extensive training in order to better understand how to guide their Clients in the right direction based on their individual needs. Online counseling is a fantastic, affordable, and convenient way to ensure that you and your partner make the decisions that will be best for you as you determine whether or not you should cohabitate before tying the knot.

No matter your views, preferences, or final decision, these Counselors and Life Coaches are here to help! Browse through our list of Online Counselors and Online Life Coaches and message them for free.