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How New Parents Can Bond with Their Baby

Learn how to build that special connection

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In this article, we will address bonding with your baby and advice for first-time parents. 

Bonding with your newborn is one of the most rewarding aspects of parenthood. There is nothing more pleasurable than sharing a connection with your new bundle of joy. 

However, this is not the case for some mothers and even fathers. For them, it's something that needs to be worked on. 

If you're also in the same situation, we'll give you some bonding tips and we also share articles written by professionals that others like you found helpful. You can also book online sessions with these professionals.

How Long Does the Bonding Process Take?

There's no straightforward answer to this. Every parent is different and the bonding process can take a few days, weeks, or even months in some cases.

Typically, when mothers have had difficult childbirth or a traumatizing experience, it takes longer to bond with their babies. Or if they have a baby that needs special care, this leaves them feeling exhausted, which can lead the bonding process to take longer. 

If you're struggling with finding that special connection with your newborn, don't be hard on yourself. Keep trying and it will come. 

Don't be hard on yourself

However, if you find yourself feeling resentful and detached towards your baby, then you'll need to seek professional help. One of the possible causes of this is post-partum depression.

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How to Bond with Your Baby

There are a number of things you can do to bond with your baby and connect. These tips are also something both parents can do. 

How to bond with your baby

Touch and Cuddle With Your Baby

Skin-to-skin contact is one of the most effective ways to connect with your little one. Hold your baby close to you. 

Try and reserve around 30 minutes a day to cuddle with your baby. You could place your little one on your chest at bedtime. 

Talk to Your Baby 

Even though your little one cannot understand a word, talking will help with the bonding process. Babies are also familiar with voices, so talk to your child during bathtime and when playing with him. 

Also, speak in a soft and soothing voice. 

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Have More Alone Time with Your Baby

When people are constantly around, be it, grandparents, family members, or friends, it makes it more difficult for you as the parents to bond with your child. 

This will take longer for you to bond with your baby. So, try and limit the visiting hours. This will allow both of you to spend more time with your child. 

Also, giving your child a relaxed and calm environment will help with the process. 

Massage and Pamper Your Baby

This will not only relax your baby but will also increase the bond between you and your child. 

After bath time, spend a little time massaging your baby's back, give him a rub and talk in a playful voice. 

Take Care of Yourself

Now, you're probably wondering, what does this have to do with bonding. However, if you don't take care of your mental health and get yourself in your happy place, you're not going to be able to take care of your child or even bond. 

So, get some sleep when your baby does, ask for help when you really need it and ensure that you are in the right frame of mind. 

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Journal Your Way Through


Being a parent is tough, there's no debate about that. So, keep a journal and write every time, you feel stressed. You'll be amazed at how this works. 

If you're considering taking on professional help, feel free to share your notes with the Expert so that they can tackle your issues. 

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Learn how powerful journaling is and what it can do for you. Read this article by Tony Fahkry, Online Life Coach. 


We wish you the best of luck on your bonding journey. Remember, it may not happen so easily for you and you're not alone. 

You can read articles that were written by professionals on WikiExpert that others like you found helpful. You can also follow the topic of parenting to stay updated on the latest.

Alternatively, you can book a session with an Online Parenting Coach to receive personalized help that meets your needs. 

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