Apr 1, 2021 in Life Coaching
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Being a parent is challenging but being a step-parent can be even more difficult. However, it is rewarding. Many stepparents around the globe try their best to play the role of a parent to their new children and it's not always an easy path.
Whilst there is no size fits all and every family is different, in this article we will cover some basic parenting tips for children. So, no matter what situation you're faced with, you'll be able to get through.
Divorce and separation have a negative impact on children and your stepchildren might be still grieving over their parents' breakup. Read this article and also let your spouse read it about how to partner with the co-parent by Latisha Taylor Ellis, Online Therapist.
Common challenges that stepparents face
Add to myWE:
- Problems with your spouse's ex;
- Rejection from your stepchildren;
- Jealousy from your own children;
- Different parenting expectations from your partner;
- Feelings of being left out.
Whether it's your stepchildren or your own that have issues. Learn how to deal with them with this effective 8-tip parenting direction article by Maryam Hameed, Online Life Coach.
How to be a good stepparent
Speak to your partner
Discuss it with your spouse beforehand on the role he wants you to play in his child's life. Talk about how you can give each other feedback without the other person feeling offended or taking it personally.
Take things slow
Bear in mind that you're entering a new family and the foundation of this relationship needs to be built. It will be difficult to get instant love from your stepchildren especially when both their parents are actively involved in their lives.
Just as it will take you time to get to know them, it will also take them time to get used to you.
Bond with your new children
To form a bond with your stepchildren, start by doing little things together. Take them on outings without your partner. You can also take your own children along. Remember not to neglect or forget your own in the process of bonding with your stepchildren.
Get involved in their lives one step at a time. This will be an icebreaker and it will show them that you're taking an interest in their lives and making an effort.
Form a balance between your children and stepchildren. Don't make either of them feel as though you love the other more. Make it clear that you have no favorites and that they're all equally important to you.
Stand your ground
Just because you're making an effort to get involved in your stepchildren's life, it does not mean you can allow anyone to take advantage of you. Be it your stepchildren, partner or their ex. Set healthy boundaries with them all.
Don't talk bad about their parents to them
Even if things get better between you and your spouse or their ex, never speak ill of them to their children. This will drive them away from you. After all, it's still their parents. Even if your partner bad mouths his ex, refrain from joining in in front of the kids.
Take care of yourself
Being a parent, in general, takes up a lot of your time but when you have an extended family, it's even more time-consuming. So, don't lose yourself in the process. Prioritize some "me" time or a date with your spouse.
Here are some self-care tips and strategies for parents. Written by Megan McCarthy, Online Life Coach.
Rewards of being a stepparent
If everything works out and you manage to form a strong relationship with your extended family. Here are some benefits and rewards of being a stepparent:
- Develops a strong bond between your children and stepchildren;
- Improves your relationship with your spouse;
- Increases the happiness in your extended family.
If things are not working out
Don't despair, you're not alone. Many stepparents are faced with the exact challenges as you are. Just know that in time things can change for the better.
If you're in need of help, WikiExpert has Expert generated content and you can also book a session with one of our professionals who can help you to get through all the issues you're facing as a stepparent.