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Jul 13, 2020 in 

"I hate myself!"

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“I hate myself!” “I hate my life!” “I don’t like myself.” Do those phrases sound familiar? Perhaps they take up a lot of space in your head, tainting your inner thoughts with self-loathing. If this is the case, you are one of a large group of people worldwide who struggles with self-hate.

While it’s possible for any type of person to experience self-hatred, studies analyzing the way that millennials would describe themselves indicate that this generation is full of self-loathing. 

Earlier this year, the UK’s National Health Service reported a doubling of hospitalizations due to self-harm in the past ten years. Adolescent girls also tend to experience overwhelming self-hatred more than other groups, with as many as seven out of ten girls thinking that they’re not good enough.

"Why do I hate myself?”

There are many reasons why you might be experiencing symptoms of self-hatred. If you are experiencing instances of bullying or abuse, for instance, you might think, “If other people hate me, I should hate myself, too.”

Loathing oneself might also be prompted by psychiatric diagnoses such as major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, or personality disorders. Traumatic events of all kinds may also have this unfortunate outcome.

No matter the reason, self-hatred is a dangerous thing.

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The harm of self-loathing. 

So, why is it so dangerous? Self-hate is more than just a mindset. In many ways, this type of thinking can become a lifestyle, a mantra that breeds only feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. When these hating thoughts and feelings become all-consuming, they may foster unhealthy feelings that lead to:

  • A lack of self-confidence;
  • Difficulty navigating relationships;
  • Self-harm behaviors;
  • Having no motivation to take care of oneself.

Moving on from a hateful mindset.

There are just as many ways to overcome self-hatred as there are people who struggle with these negative thoughts, making the recovery process from hate entirely achievable but sometimes a matter of trial and error.

For the best results as you learn how to stop hating yourself, we suggest that you team up with an ally who can help you to discover the best ways to love yourself.

What works for one person may not work for another, but speaking with an Online Life Coach will help you to connect personally with an Expert who can help you learn what works for you.

These personalized recovery plans may take some time to develop, but regular online life coaching sessions will yield progress with patience.

If you’re ready to stop hating yourself and embrace a life full of self-love instead of self-hate. 

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