Jan 6, 2021 in Counseling
Our brain is a wonderful organ, and the way it works is understood but not fully.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Our brain works in so many different ways. It is one organ that uses a lot of energy. Whether it’s the blood flow, or the firing of our electrical impulses, or the chemicals that run through. There has been so much research of the brain, and how it works. We still do not understand much about it, and adding the layer of genetics makes it even more complicated.
We formulate thoughts all day, and we don’t actually know how they come to be. It is a fascinating process, how something just comes to your mind. More than most of us know, most of our thoughts and ideologies and behaviors and ways to view the world come from very young years. Our young years are very important and Erick Erickson the god of Child development lays it out nicely in every stage, how our development is occurring. Everything that occurred in our young years, where our brain was shaping and developing will affect who we are today, and how we view the world. Every experience repeated or not will impact how we view the world. This is very important as adults to try to understand why we think the way we think? Why we view the world the way we do? Is this a trauma reaction or is this realism that we are looking at? Why are we the way we are, and why do we behave certain ways? Everything comes from our childhood. This is very important when it comes to counselling and helping ourselves and developing strategies to grow and flourish. We need to go back and understand why we are wired this way. It’s like a computer, we are a computer that built itself. No matter what connection on that hard drive you wired together you will still function, however it may not be the fastest most efficient way. So we need to be able to dive deep and find out the reasons, and re wire. I am no electrician but I know rewiring is very hard, and hardest when it’s our own brain.
Our development directly influences our thoughts and behaviors and our behaviors influence our feelings. Everything is a cycle, and if one part of the cycle is not functional. The only way to fix it is to break the entire cycle and re implement it differently.